Surgery Oct 5th and freaking out

Hello all....I am fairly new to this board but have checked it out in the past a couple of times. My surgery is Wednesday and I am so scared. I am a basketcase. I went for my pre-ops last Friday and have been a wreck ever since. They informed me that since my BMI is over 50 I will eb admitted to ICU the first night. That freaked me out....I know it is for precationary reasons but now I am afraid something is going to happen. I am having open RNY and am hoping for a smooth operation and speedy recovery. I keep telling myself I am doing the right thing. It has taken me 2 years to get this far so there is now backing out now. Keep me in your prayers. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Cassy

cassy they are using relaxed concern. they are the experts and you will be fine. think of it as a stay in the posh hotel. it is normal to be nervous but this way they will be able to monitor and give your surgeon the most up to date info on you. im glad you came here for your worries. we will help you take some of that worry so you can relax a little. we are here for you. you will do fine. diane in MN

Diane- Thanks for the wonderful words of encouragement. I know that the surgeon is the expert and I should just relax.

greetings cassy! congratulations on your upcoming surgery! i, too had an open RNY, with a bmi of 66.4 at the time of surgery. i won't kid you -- it was a painful operation, but i made it through it, and you will too! i didn't spend any time in the ICU, but if i were you, i'd just be glad to be there - in case you need to be! better safe than sorry, you know? i've had some difficult spots along this journey, but overall -- i would do it again in a heartbeat! i feel so much better now! best of luck to you! deb -182

Deb- First off....congrats on your weight loss to date. What an inspiration.... I can deal with the pain....it is the complications I am afraid of. I have had other surgeries and have done absolutely fine so I am sure I am worrying myself too much. It is fear of the unknown and the fact that this is and elective surgery that has me so nervous. I know that if I continue on with the weight I have my life is going to be nothing and my health is going to decrease. With this surgery I know I have a chance and a new exciting life healthy and happy. I am going to do my best to keep a positive attitude for the next 1 1/2 days and will get through surgery just fine. Thanks again

(((((((((cassy)))))))), Oh,cassy, try not to be too scared! My surgery is scheduled for october 24th(still cant believe it). I will have to be in the ICU also because I have a mitral valve leak. I am trying not to panic. I know EXACTLY how you feel. We will be fine!!!!!!!!!!!!! Every post op on here is living, breathing proof that we will survive!!!!!! I will take whatever pain or misery that is associated with this operation and trade it for a chance to lead a "normal" life!!! if you start to freak out......come to our chat room. there are a lot of knowledgable people on there who are willing to take your hand and guide you through this. i count on them every single day. WE WILL BE FINE!!!!!!!! willby

Willby---- Thanks for the great words of support. I know we will both be fine but there is that little devil sitting on my shoulder that I cannot get to go away. I have had other surgeries and have done fine. I do not know why this one is freaking me out so much. It has only been the last couple of days but I really need to get back to my positive thoughts. I have read several profiles where they have wanted to back out at the last minute so I know that I am not the only one that feels these crazy things. I will certianly post all my good news once I am on the losing side. For now...thats all Thanks again Cassy

Sandra-best of luck on your upcoming surgery as well. I am surewe will be ok. I have 2 daughters 6 and 10 and a wonderful husband that are all keeping me happy. As far as the nerves....I was fine until my preop appt this past Friday. Tomorrow is my last day of work and I will have to be on a completely clear liquid diet so I am sure it will be long but I am going to keep positive and strong. I will keep you in my prayers for an uneventful surgery and speedy recovery.

Hi Cassy I am preop with a date set for November 7, but I am sure all will work out just fine for you Just take a deep breathe and stay positive. They are professionals and know what they are doing so you are in good hands. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for an uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery. Take care and keep us posted! Anita

Anita- Thanks for the kind words of support. I too know I will be ok. I will certianly keep everyone posted.