scared...BMI 71 surgery in 3 days

Hi every one, I just fond this part of the board, I was beginning to think I was the only one with such a high BMI, my surgery is this Wed,, I pray I can go through with it,, I am so scared... my surgeoun is awesome, he has done over 5,000... I am afraid..I have a big hernia, and also gall stoes..I am on c pap and have asthma..I am so afraid of everything.... I did have the band in 03, and had 2 operations to try to fix it, so I know I can stand the anesthisia.... I am sorry..just so very scared...thank you for listening Gloria

Hi Gloria, You are definitely not alone in the high BMI category; I'm glad you found this board when you did (before your surgery). There are so many people here with high BMIs that have gone through surgery successfully. You will be one of them, too. It's only natural to be afraid before a major operation, especially when you have the health issues that you mentioned. You obviously had a bad experience with the band, but try to trust that this will turn out differently. You said you have a very good surgeon and you can tolerate anesthesia - those are two very big things. I know it's hard, and it's all scary, but try to remain positive. You will be in my thoughts, and I hope you will come back to the board and share any time you feel like it. There are many wonderful, supportive people here. Take Care, Tanja

Gloria, so wonderful you found "our" message board... welcome! You a ahead of me on your process, I go to my first doctors appointment on Novemeber 14th. I can not wait for you to encourage me when I am scared and awaiting my surgery. You are not alone.. we are here... I am throwing you a big hug and lots and lots of thoughts and prayers. I am also going to throw some sprinkles your way filled with laughter, love and bit of no worries! ~*~ Pam

Gloria, So glad you found us, this is the place to be for all the love and support you could ever want. WLS is a scary thing, I am also pre-op and dont have a date yet but the closer I get the more scared I am. It is going to be ok, I have heard so many success stories on here, these people are all an inspiration. Finding a GREAT surgeon that is well experienced in this type of surgery is a big deal, so it sounds like you will be in good hands. We are all here for you and we will be waiting to welcome you to the losing side! ((((HUGS)))) Karyn

GLORIA I AM GLAD YOU FOUND US IT IS PERFECTLY NORMAL TO BE NERVOUS YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH MAJOR SURGERY B4 WITH NO ANESTHESIA COMPLICATIONS PLEASE COME BACK AFTER SURGERY WE CAN ALWAYS USE A POST OP TO BOUNCE OUR QUESTIONS AND FEARS OFF OF TOO LOVE CANDY:

DONT WORRY!!!! I had a BMI of 64.5 when I went into surgery on September 30th. I promise it is scary but when you wake up you will feel a huge weight off of your shoulders. I was lucky I had my husband telling me about 50 times a day, from work, at home, by email , by voicemail... WHY THE HECK I WAS DOING THIS... AGAIN! I promise it will be worth it ... Im not going to lie it is VERY hard the first 3 weeks... but when you see 35 llbs gone in only 4 weeks youll be like HOLY COW!!!! When your pants start feeling looser. When you arent as concerned that you might have to sit in a booth, ariplane etc. IT WILL BE WORTH IT!!! YOUR HEALTH ... is top priority.. and you want to be healthy for years to come... see you children grandchildren etc grow up and play with them while they DO! GOOD LUCK GIRL ... Ill be thinking about you and Ill be talkin to you again before you know it!!! Steph

((((((Hugs)))))))))) from one who knows how you feel! It's a little scarry, but I tried to be positive surgery day. Everyone that called me to wish me well kept telling me to think positive, happy thoughts, and think about the future. You'll do fine - just know that we all here have you in our thoughts and prayers! Please post when you get home, let us know you are home! Best of luck to you! God Bless, Carol V.

Hey Sweetie, You are soooo not alone, I am right up there with you. Thats what we are here for , to get it down right?? I know you are scared.. I am too.. And thats normal. Mine isn't sceduled yet, but I have to get 30 pounds off then I can go forth with the surgery. Just know that there are a lot of good people who will be praying for you DURING yur surgery time. Just keep us informed and waiting patiently to hear that your "on the other side". Praying God gives you peace, and that He keeps his hands on you and the surgeon, with a speedy recovery....In Jesus Name....amen hugz... Elaine O.

WELCOME TO THE BOARD GLORIA!!!!!!!!! BEST WISHES AND GOOD THOUGHTS COMING YOUR WAY!!!!!!!!!! SANDRA A.

hi gloria: i know your surgery is today so you probably won't read this until you're a LOSER. so i'll wish you a great recovery. i'm glad you found this site, too. everyone here is so wonderfully supportive and there's lots of info to help you through the tough times. my first week out was the worst. i say that to let you know it gets better very, very quickly. you'll turn a corner, so to speak, and from there it's all downhill. for the first few days just sip, sip, sip, rest, walk, sip, sip, sip, rest, walk. please come back and join us soon and often. until then, take care. "wave" dorthe