looking for a pen pal angel type buddy

I need a angel I need some one I can talk with every day that well listen to me and I can listen to them I am on a loney road right now and need a friend that is were I am or were I am going I hate to ask but dont know how else to get one lol love you guys shelley

Shelley, You can email privately ANYTIME you need to talk at [email protected] You are not alone. Everyone is here for you. Carmella

Dear Shelley, I would love to be your pen pal or email pal. Tell me more about yourself. Love, deb

you can email me at any time I dont know if i will be of much help. But i will try my best. [email protected]

not just looking for help just some one to talk to every day to keep my head on right lol my family live so far away and I feel I dont have any one but me and my kid and she is just 11 so its a lonely time love you guys shelley

Hey girl,I truley understand where you are coming froma as i am so in the same boat right now.I would love to be your pen pal.Email me anytime at [email protected] and we can go from there if you would like to get together and talk.Maybe you can give me ur email address as well and we can get to know one another better.Look foward to hearing from you shelley!!!! Keep your chin up!!!

Hi Shelley My name is Timmy Ray. I am ten months out, I had WLS surgery December 22nd, 2005. On the day of Surgery I was 601 pounds. I had my surgery in Iowa, and I moved to New Jersey in May of this year. I am in graduate school here in New Jersey. I met my wife Sandi when I was still in Iowa, here on Obesity Help (the singles board) in February 2005 when I was 3 months out...and we got married May 16th. We are very happy and I am a little shell shocked at all the changes in my life. Reading your post makes me very much want to connect and encourage you... you are just starting to enjoy the changes. At first it seems like nothing is happening.. then SUDDENLY.. everything is different. Trust me it DOES get better.. sometimes slow.. Sometimes all at once. Shelley so much has changed for me in a year. I cant begin to tell you how much is awaiting you as you get further and further from surgery. Its sooo important to keep plugged in to support. I want to encourage you., I just read your profile and I can tell you are a fighter : ))) Some information about myself.. At my heaviest, I had a BMI of 83.4 (at 650 pounds) At surgery, I had a BMI of 77 (at 601 pounds) Today, at almost ten months, my BMI is 53.4. at ten months, and 416 pounds. My goal is to try to be down.... to having lost 200 pounds by Christmas. Not sure if I can.,.. but working on it : ) Hey... Sometimes I get down. I STILL have two HUNDRED POUNDS (can you say that again)...to lose.. I got in a car crash ten days ago... and sometimes I realize that its not the LOSS.. or the weight that I still have to lose... (head on collission with a telephone pole, and two trees.. car broken, timmy banged up but no broken bones.. very blessed to be alive and I promise Im fine : ) Its celebrating EACH day for the good things. I dont know you yet : )) but I bet things are starting to look up : ) For you.. in your life? Shelley I used to have Type II diabetes.. (I dont now). I used to be 10 or 12x, (I am now 3x or 4 x) in clothing. I used to have a wheelchair. I STILL have sleep apnea.. but its improving. I still am HUGE.. but less huge. Its ALL about the support. Do you like to talk on the phone? I am part of a super group here in NJ, you are very welcome over on the New Jersey state board. And there are ladies that literally would telephone you BECAUSE THEY NEED TO CONNECT and support others for their OWN need for support. Really. I promise your not alone, kiddo :P There are a bunch of gals that would love to talk to you. (seriously : ) AND.. the other responses here on the BMI over 50 board sound like there are ladies and people here too that would enjoy getting to know you : ) I am a gregarious guy. I would enjoy being your friend if you would like to email, or if you want a phone call...you are welcome to contact me at [email protected] or [email protected] if you would like some emails or would like a lady (from the New Jersey Obesity help board, or perhaps even my wife : ) contact you .. let me know? You dont have to have me call you... I would love to get to know you.. but trying to help you see that folks would love to get to know you : ) Your not limited to one slightly rumpled redneck guy named Timmy REALLY. : ) I used to be very shy. The IDEA of talking to people.. much less ladies on the phone used to TERRIFY me. Now.. its like... HEY.. today is a new day. So in all seriousness... if you want to get plugged in and get to know some folks, your going about it in a great way. KEEP it UP : )) Post. Post Messages. Post on HERE.. this board. Post on your state board. Respond to posts. CHAT. Get to know people. Relax and ... try to take small risks as you can.. to get to know folks : ) Ask questions... comment... vent. Nothing ventured nothing gained : )) Exchange notes and get to know people by email. And .. for those people that you get to know that gain your trust... exchange numbers and talk on the telephone. OFTEN : ) I am NOT offended Shelley if you would rather talk to ladies. I am not available for a relationship (just being up front : ) and I think your looking for friends anyhow... But I am certain that you will get snapped up before long, you seem to have a lot on the ball and a lot of good qualities. Maybe you are concentrating on post surgery...or working on you.. (hey some folks feel thats the thing to do after surgery... personally you seem pretty grounded and like you have your head on straight) and not looking for a fella.. but speaking as a objective guy... I think you wont stay single long if you are looking : ) Just my opinion : ) If you want to be friends, and to have some enthusiastic gregarious folks get to know you... just let me know : ) My support group has a phone list, and I am certain I could get some ladies to call and get to know you (if your comfortable with the telephone idea). Merely telling some of these gals about you will create a lot of excitement... let me tell you these gals are fired up and enthusiastic about weight loss support and encouraging each other : ) I am a talker (ya think) and I wouldnt mind calling either... but only if thats something that you are comfortable with. Okay? My wife and I have unlimited long distance.. to be honest it is easier for me because of my schooling to just call folks on the telephone.. but that is only if they are comfortable. Some thoughts and ideas to encourage you: -Are you focusing on getting your daily protein and vitamins? -Are you drinking enough water and some daily gentle exercise? -are you chewing well and eating slowly? -Are you stopping eating the BITE (not just one or two more) that you feel full? -Are you communicating via telephone with your surgeon? And are you waiting 30 minutes after eating (at least) to drink? And waiting 10 minutes (at least) after drinking to eat? I know I know.. "Timmy I said angel pen pal not a nag" sorry : P Sorry.. I get excited sometimes : P But those things were things that I didnt know especially at first , especially the big four (vitamins, protein, water, exercise). Shelley your NOT alone. If I can encourage you.. let me know? I promise to respond to emails if you prefer that instead of the telephone. My wife works a lot and is pretty busy... maxed out time wise, but I will show your post to her and see if she would like to respond too : ) She had surgery also.. RNY surgery in March 2004. I didnt have a support group, and I was lonely, and I went to the Obesity Help Singles Board. I found my wife, Sandi J, and eventually moved here. So much is changed, please let me know if you would like to get to know me. I promise.. if you post (here , or on other Obesity help boards) and stay active .. things change. For me.. nothing changed for about 4 months then suddenly... I started to realize that posting a lot, and responding to folks on the boards WAS my support. Hang in there... please let me know if I can encourage you in any way. You seem like a really nice lady... and I hope things continue to change for the good as time passes. Hugs Take Care Shalom Timmy Ray PS Shelley Just promise me that you will try to write someone EVERY day.. that you wont ISOLATE... and that you will let people get to know you. I am a christian man, that married a wonderful jewish lady, and I am very happy. But I am wanting to encourage you to realize that...after reading your site/profile that you have a lot to offer the world. That you are a super person. That things WILL get better.. but you have to know and BELIEVE : ) I remember sleeping 22 hours a day, living alone, in snowy Iowa, with no friends, little hope, and discouragement and dispair. I HAVE been there. So.. please at least post here and let us know if you are making some positive encouraging connections? Hugs Timmy Ray : )

(((((((((SHELLEY))))))))) You are NEVER alone as long as we are here!! We know what you are going through. we have all known loneliness. I suffer through it every day, even though I have a house full of 7 people. I truly believe that so much of our loneliness comes from the child inside of us who was never loved/or wanted. It has to be our job NOW to get that little girl through the rest of her life and give ourselves what was never given to us. Love and acceptance. You can email me anytime. Just by looking at all of the posts you have received to this letter.............you have a LOT of people who care about you. Take care, Shelley!!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!! [email protected] willby

you guy make me feel loved and that is one thing I dont think I have felt in a long time Thank you

Hey Hon... Email me anytime to talk about what ever is on your mind...We can laugh or cry or rant and rave together... No excuse for being lonely once you've found this board!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep in touch!