difficult night

must have been bad if you cant even talk about it

Shelly, sometimes tears are best left to tell... but I sure apprecaite your posting... thank you for being her for me. Pam

It is hard for me to talk about it, you are right Shelly. My husband is such an angry man. Tonight he told me he would not take me to my appointment.. my first appointment for WLS which I have been waiting for since March. He already informed me that he would not take me to the Seminar, so I got my daughter-in-law to help me out for that one.. she is taking the day off for me this next Wednesday. Now he said he would not take me on Monday...... I am disabled and am in a wheelchair. I can drive, but can't get my wheelchair from the car on my own. I feel he is controling, and attempting to sabotage me again. He then punished me by not speaking to me this afternoon, or evening..... I posted earliier, but then he walked in and kicked my computer.... so I turned it off. Prayers...... I need courage to continue my journery... to get healthy and to be able to stand up to what I believe in and desire for myself. Humbly, ~*~ Pam

Pam, This is mental abuse no matter how you look at it. Make sure you make that appointment. If you need help I am sure there is a service in your area that will come and get you and take you to the doctors appointment if you need help finding one please email me privately at [email protected], I have unlimited long distance on my phone so please I am here I can try to help. God Bless Priscilla

Priscilla, great minds must work together.. ha ha ha... I called the disability services in our county and they will send me the registration info (but it is only for the county.. my doctor is in the county just south). Yesterday I also called to find out about taxi's that might service our area. I appreciate your willingness to help me and I am touched that your care shouts so clearly through your words. THANK YOU. I am glad to say that today my husband told me he will take me on Monday, but he is not willing to go again.... (that is what he says now). You will never know exactly how much your message meant to me... hard to read the part about abuse.... as a counselor I used to hide myself in the work I loved. Now my life faces me straight in the face. Thank you Priscilla. pam

HEY PAM, I AM SO SORRY FOR YOU PAM AND THAT YOU ARE GOING THRU THIS. I CANT AMAGINE SOMEONE THAT IS SUPPOSSED TO BE THERE FOR YOU ESPECIALLY YOUR HUSBAND TREATING YOU LIKE THIS. I KNOW YOU HAVE MADE UP YOUR MIND AND YOU CAN NOT! LET THIS GET YOU DOWN AND STOP WITH THE JOURNEY OF DOING THIS. I AM NOT WITHOUT WORDS ITS JUST NOT NICE WORDS THAT I WOULD BE USING SO I WONT EVEN GO THERE. BUT MY MOMA USED TO SAY SOMETHING THAT STUCK WITH ME THRU LIFE....HE HAS GOTTA GO TO SLEEP SOMETIME LOL.YOU ARE IN A WHEELCHAIR AND KICKING r%$%. OMG.WHAT IS HE DOING , HAVING TANTRUMS BECAUSE HE CANT KEEP YA DOWN? WELL YOU STICK IN THERE AND YOU EMAIL ME ANYTIME AND HOLLER IF YOU WANT TO TALK. DONT LET HIM KEEP YOU FROM BEING HEALTHIER AND HAVING MORE OF A LIFE. MAYBE THATS WHAT HE IS AFFRAID OF. DONT KNOW HOW LONG YALL BEEN MARRIED BUT ITS WAY TO LONG SEEMS LIKE TO ME. SORRY I FEEL THIS WAY. ITS JUST UPSETTING TO SEE IGNORANT PEOPLE BEHAVING THIS WAY. HANG IN THERE... HUGS MARGARET

Margaret, I hear your words...thank you for showing your care. I do think he is afraid of change... and seems to have me right where he is comfortable, but I am not. We have been married for over 32 years. I need to surround myself with positive right now for sure, maybe I will go on a trip soon, even though that makes him mad too. Thanks for your time and for listening.... I so much appreciate it. pam

Pam... Call a taxi... they will put your wheelchair in the trunk for you... what he is doing is power and control and your post screams of abuse to me. I know you may feel trapped right now but do all you can do to empower yourself and get your surgery as it WILL change your life!!!!!! HUGS Patti

Patti, yesterday I did just that, to see how it would work for me in my wheelchair. I did not let my dpression over my husbands abandonment get me so upset that I could not think.... that is very good for me. I do feel empowered, especailly after reading all these friends (ofcourse including you, Patti) good encouraging words. To me, this surgrey will be life changing. And I know that I will possibally get more resistance from my husband as I improve my esteem and health. I have tried to be postive with him and include him in all aspects of my life. He continues to show abusive response that I can not accept, except ... as you said..... I do feel trapped at this time. Thank you for your insightful response... I apprecaite it and YOU! pam