difficult night

Margaret, your Mama's words are true! Thank you for sharing them with me. And your words are true as well, I did expect support... and got a tantrum. By the way, he did today tell me that he could take me on Monday, but he would probablly not be able to take me again. I think he like control over me. Thank you also for your words of encouragement. I will not be held "down" this time. Your intuitiveness is very good. I am amazed that I had the boldness to even tell the messageboard... now I am in amazment of those who show their care. Thank you Margaret. pam

Pam, (((((BIG WARM ENCOURAGING HUG)))))))) I'm sorry that your hubby has to act like that. What an A$$!!!!! If I lived closer, I would be glad to help you out with a ride. Fribby had a good idea about a taxi though. STAY STRONG!!!!!!! Dont let him wear you down!!!!!!!! Remember WE are here for you!!!!! willby PS: if push comes to shove.........all of us SMORES can out there and sit on him for you!!!! SMOSS!!!!!!!!!! LETS RIDE

Willby, you always have such good ideas! I shall "take" advantage of the SMORES for sure and I sure enjoy the give and take here on the boards. Let's ride! I did call the taxi and found out how it all works. I wish I lived closer to others to help them out too. WOW if we all lived close.. the world should WATCH OUT!!!! ha ha ha. So ... today my husband said he decided he could take me.... this time, but not to expect him to do it again. I am not impressed by this silly behavior he is throwing at me. I just can't put up with it. I am strong - today.... Willby, thank you for your posting..... I appreciate your words soooooooooooooooo much! pam

Pam, (((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))) I dont even know what to say, I am just so sad for you right now, I cant imagine having to live with someone like that. Have you tried posting on the state boards for where you live? I am sure that you could find a buddy that is close enough to help you out and would be more than happy too. We are all on this board because we need each other, I have no doubt you will find someone here that will help you. I hope you stay strong and show him that you WILL NOT let him win. Karyn

Pam, I know firsthand how you feel. I put up with it for 21 years and believe me there is light at the end of the tunnel. I didn't think so either and didn't want to get married again. But I met someone who is so good to me, and we have been married for 8 yrs. I know it's hard to believe but it will get better, I promise. Just hang in there and email me if you want. Love, deb

Deb, you are such an encouragment for me. I am not sure where all this will lead me, but for now I am where I am and I apprecaite you words so very much. I have been married for 32 years, alot of time invested and two adult children that continue to be the highlight of our time together. But for me -right now - I need to make it through the day... the week and next year.... I pray time will strenghten me. How did you ever break free? Thank you for your example. 8 years I am so glad you found someone to bring happiness into your life. You deserve that.. we all do!!! pam

Karyn, I sure needed that hug! You said you didn't know what to say.... it was so hard for me to put into words too. But I needed help, and you for sure are here to give me assurance that I am amoungst friends, and for last night, it was ok for me to disclose. Good idea about finding someone who might be able help me, if ever I get in this prediciment again... but for now.. my husband decided he can indeed take me on Monday, but not for me to count on him again. There are some of us in my area that are trying to get a support group going, so it may hold the key to neighbor friends that can help eachother out. I will try my hardest to be strong.... nothing right now can stop me for improving my life. I sure apprecaite your words! pam

Pam, I was in a marriage like this. It ended, I'm sorry to say, with the suicide of my husband. That was 9 years ago. It was such a difficult time for me. But, I have to tell you now I'm doing better then ever. Please do whatever it takes to empower yourself. Life is too short! Lori 384/278/170

Lori, first off.. boy am I so proud of your weight loss.. WOW!!! Someday I too shall be able topost such after my name! Right now - you are so right - I need to be empowered. I'll tell you, reading these posting have been very encouraging for me. Many have bought tears to my eyes... I am so tender in my heart still over this silliness my husband caused me to go though yesterday. (now he changes his mind that he can take me, but not to count on it always) I hope to "visit" with you regarding your doing better now.... I need to feel better about me. Thanks for reminding me that Life is too short! and I want to live!!!! pam

Pam, We only HEAR the hurt, and we hurt for you. I can't imagine having to live with it. He is scared of loosing you and he should be, becasue I personally think you deserve better. You are a caring and loving person, and he is not. He doesn't deserve you if he doesn't want you to be healthy and happy. Stay strong, and don't give up. Let go and let God. Use His strength and through HIM you will succeed in yur journey. We are all here for you, always know that. hugz... Elaine O.