Son For Sale........CHEAP!!!!!!!!!

Good Morning Smores, I need a little friendly advice, please. This is a long drawn out story and by the end of it, I'm sure, you'll be praying for death. But here goes... MY 15 yo son has a GF. They have been dating for 10 months now. The problem is the girls parents dont like my son and 10 months ago, forbade their daughter to see him. I dont know why they dont like him.......something about being "disrespectful". But I'm sure that no boy will ever be good enough for their daughter. Oh well(getting off track here). They see each other at school and (PLEASE DONT KILL ME!!!!) I found out that she sneaks down here in the middle of the night about every week to see him. This involves a $25 taxi fare one way. i dont condone this..........but I'm in when it happens. My son is getting more and more upset everyday. He wants to be able to call her and see her on the weekend. She is a sweet girl and she is getting frustrated at the situation too. No one can talk to the parents. They are so strict its ridiculous......HOWEVER.......I realize that they are free to parent whatever way they see fit. Its not for me to say. My son has called the father and asked to date the daughter. the father said "group dates" were ok.........but wont let my son within 50 feet of her. I guess after all of this blah blah blahing.......I just wanted to see if anyone had a workable solution to this? I've tried to talk my son out of seeing her ("there are a LOT of girls out there") but he LOVES her!!!!!!!!! (you know good old love) Should I try to talk to the parents? Forbid my son to see her(laughing as i write that one cuz its not going to happen)? or just let them deal with it? The drama is killing me!! Any suggestions, dear family? thank you willby

Willby, I cant speak from your point of view (because I dont have a teenage son) But I can tell you what it was like for me, I have three sisters, 0 brothers and my dad raised all 4 of us on his own....NO boy was ever good enough and we always heard "NO!!!!" So it was nice for your son to try to talk to the dad, but at the same time, pointless....Dad doesnt want ANY boys with his little girl! Maybe you could try talking to mom, but whatever you do, DO NOT let them find out she has been sneaking over at night!!! And you are right about trying to stop him, it will only make your life more miserable. Maybe if you or your husband could find out why they dont like your son(if they even have a reason) then you can talk to him. Or maybe it is simply that they are so young! Who knows, I wish I could be more help, good luck with whatever you decide to do. ((((HUGS))))Karyn

Thanks Karyn, The girl has had other BF's so thats not the problem. And the Mom dislikes my son more than the Dad does. Maybe I will try to talk to them....but then again......who am I to question how they are raising their daughter? Even if it is take care willby

Wow... you've got your hands full... Sorry there doesn't seem to be a solution either... In an ideal world he'd just find someone else... or her parents would get over themselves... It's all fun and games until someone gets pregnant.... You can't change their minds and who knows why they disapprove?? It could be nothing at all ... You could ask them what the problem is and when they say something rude about your son - you can point out that their precious little girl is a taxi riding trollop... Seriously... maybe you should try to keep them apart as well so that he can move on.

WLS CHK(what IS your name anyways??.....just whisper it to me i wont tell a soul Loved the taxi trollop line...........and they think MY SON has the problem? HA! willby

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((WILLBY)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I CAN ONLY SUGGEST THAT YOU TALK TO HIS GIRLFRIEND AND SEE IF SHE CAN GIVE YOU SOME INSIGHT AS TO WHY HER PARENTS DO NOT LIKE YOUR SON THEN I WOULD PROB TALK TO PARENTS NOT SURE IT WILL DO ANY GOOD IF THEIR MINDS ARE THAT SET YOU PROB WILL NOT BE ABLE TO CHANGE THEIR MINDS BUT YOU WILL KNOW U TRIED I WOULD DEF KEEP LINES OF COMMUNICATION OPEN BETWEEN YOUR SON HIS GF AND YOURSELF ESP SINCE SHE IS SNEAKING OVER THEY R DEF TOOO YOUNG TO MAKE YOU A GRANDMA AND SOMETIMES KIDS FEEL THAT IS THE SOLUTION SO THEY CAN BE TOGETHER MY COUSIN DID IT WHEN SHE WAS 15 FOR THIS VERY REASON GOOD LUCK HON IF YOU NEED TO TALK YOU KNOW WHERE TO REACH ME LOVE CANDY P.S. IF YOU SELL YOURS TELL THEM ABOUT MY SON MAYBE WE COULD GIVE THEM A DISCOUNT IF THEY TAKE BOTH

Thank you Candy.........youre a sweetheart! willby

(((((Willby))))) Sorry you are going though all this. I, too, have a son as you know, but I dont know what you can possibly do. I would suggest that your son talk to her parents very nicely and respectfully ask them what he can do to prove himself to them. What did he do to make them think he was disrespectful and then apologize to them and make sure it never happens again. Even if he wasnt wrong, he needs to be man enough to accept thier feelings and go along with them. Maybe if he starts "courting" the parents a little, they will grow to like him. I think if you got involved it might cause more problems. I assume your son is an adult? If he is still a teen then its a whole other issue and I would have a different opinion about you calling. I cant imagine if a girls mom called me about my son that I would have a positive reaction, especially if I didnt like the girl (not that that would ever happen LOL). But I dont know, never been there. Lets get all our sons together and have a yard sale! Sorry hon, cant really give you much other advice, and the advice I gave is probably not very good or helpful. Good luck with everything and keep us posted. Love, Soos

Hi Grandma, I do have an adult son(he's 26) but this one is Brian my 15 yo. He is truly going to drive me to drink!! Thanks for the support! willby

I'm thinking you might want to try to talk to the girl's parents. Invite them over to a nice dinner with your family and see if you can help get to the point. I don't have kids but I've had a foreign exchange student. I tell you some of the guys he brought home (we insisted on meeting his friends) were really great. Those that endured themselves to us got our respect (yes, I know, they're probably the same ones that were more likely to get into trouble but if they know how to play the game I guess they just get further). I think you can help turn this into a learning experience for your son. You might find out he's no angel (of course it seems you know this already) but that he can be rehabilitated. He might simply need to apologize for something he did (or offer to do yardwork or help with some other task they might need assistance for). I agree, though, that you don't want to let it be known that their darling daughter has been making secret trips to your place. You having an open dialog might help too (especially if something were to happen and you both become grandparents -- boy, isn't that negative that that's how we all think but I guess its just how life is).