ok now i have to vent (again) lol

i just heard on the news that a california couple left there 5 and 8 year olds home alone for days........ My question is why were they allowed to have children when I was not? Thanks again for listening Priscilla

Priscilla, I hear ya!! I wasnt able to kids even though I really wanted to... And to hear about all the abuse, neglect, etc just makes me sick!! I have a neighbor who should have been made sterile at birth.. She yells, screams, and cusses her kids daily.. I just want to shake some sense into her!! And yet she has 4 already and the 5th on the way.... WHY????? Amber

I am with you ladies!!! It breaks my heart that their are 14, 15, 16, and up year olds out there popping out babies like it wasnt anything. Then they are throwing them in dumpsters, locking them in closets, or whatever. And you all know it gets much worse. I just dont understand it. And I have beat myself up over and over again over this. Because I know that God wouldnt place in my heart this desire for children like he did. And to be perfectly honest they dont even have to be my own children. I would be perfectly happy to adopt also. The only way I get thro a day is that I wake up in the morning and give it all to God. I know sometimes that is easier said then done. And for the longest of times I couldnt even watch a baby story or Maternity Ward on TV. Because I would just sob and lose it. Slowly the pain has went away and it does get better. Just remember that they will be held responsible for the things that they do. And until that time all I can do is pray for protection over the children of our furture. And try to be a mentor and mediactor for them. you all Melissa

Hi Melissa, My heart goes out to you. I have 2 children...but the last one took seven years to get here. INfertility changes all the time with our bodies and our hubby's bodies too. I just wanted to tell you that you can be a mother without having children. I say this because I have a sister who is 10 years younger than me. If anyone should had been a mom..it is her. She is now 37 and her husband passed away several months ago. Her hope of children has been diminished. But you know what? That girl loves children and they love her. She spends more time with my sons and her other nieces and nefiews than many parents spend with their very own children. She makes each child feel like they are the most important person on this earth. No, physically she may never be a mother(give birth) but she will always be a mother to the children she loves and cares about. I hope this can help you in some way or another..use the love you have for children to benefit their lifes. Hugs, Virginia aka Ginger

Life just isnt fair. I know I have several friends that would make great parents and I have a relative that had four kids with his wife. And neither one of them are good parents. I think everyone in the family keeps calling family services and they do nothing. I can tell you stories that will make you crinch. makes me sick. but family services this far has done nothing. Their oldest is 6 years old This is his second year of school and has been in 11 different schools. I am so sorry to hear you cant have children. welll I can right a book on this one. bye love marie

HI Priscilla, just thought I would add my two cents here, as most of you know, I do have a daughter(pics on profile) and she is the world to me. I also work ina daycare for almost eight years and I see how parents neglect and abuse their children every day. It is heartbreaking, and I dont understand why or how someone could not realize what a blessing a child is. DH and I have been trying to concieve #2 for over a year and cannot. During this time I spent my days on fertility friend website and met three beuatiful incredible ladies that were also having fertility issues. I am pleased to say that in the year we have been friends all three of them were able to concieve and are now expecting their first babies, the last one just finding out she was pregnant 3 days after Christmas after trying almost 4 years. I just thought I would share because I agree with you all how sad and frustrating and difficult it is to see such uncaring, undeserving human beings become parents, yet how refreshing it was for me to meet these women and join them for the struggle and knowing that God does answer prayers. Yes it disgusts me to see these things happening to young children, and I too wish that it would end. And all of us women who so desperately want to be mommies have our prayers answered too. Karyn

Priscilla, my heart crys for the children that must live in homes that ignors the basic needs of children. In our society there is no reason this kind of abuse must continue. I am constantly troubled by the parents who need help in raising their precious ones..... wish I could be there for all of them. I love children from the depths of my heart. Your words tell me that you would have been such a wonderful mother. I am not sure - ofcourse - why it is that you could not have biological children of your own. But in my humble opinion.... YOU would have been great at it! I bet you have touched so many children during your life... your care, I am sure is fellt by the children in your life. I'm Listening I'll hold you - when you have no one there I'll listen to your worries and care about your hurts Why must our world continue to ignor The crys of our children - the tears of their youth. I'll give you unconditional love, that will last a lifetime I'll dry your eyes and try my best to solve your hurts. Hugs Priscilla, Aunt Pam

I think these are the same children that were left at home so the parents could go to vegas for New yrs. and they got someone to take care of their puppy. You know you have to have a license to drive a car and to hunt. Makes me angrey too. ~Cindy~

It's a little easier for me to understand as an athiest. I don't think of idiots who abuse/neglect their kids as having been "allowed" to have children. They're simply biologically able to breed, just as many house cats and hamsters are, regardless of parenting ability. Of course, when idiots breed, and then terribly neglect and/or abuse their children, those children sometimes become available for adoption. If you want to look at it as "Why was that allowed to happen?", you can chalk it up to "mysterious ways" and say that it's because those children were destined to be taken in by loving couples who couldn't get pregnant.