I Will Not Should On Myself Today!

Good Morning Smores((((BIG BIG HUG)))))) I promise myself that today, I will not feel bad or guilty for my life. I wont think to myself "I should be thinner" "I should have been a better daughter/wife/sister/Mom" "I should have gotten this surgery sooner""I should be more outgoing" I'm so tired from all of the shoulding. Along with my weight loss, I'm going to try to lose some of my guilt and feelings of inadequacy. WOW!! This might be TMI for a Monday morning Thanks for listening as I blah blah blah and yak yak yak! willby

Hi how are you? I agree with your post you shouldn't dwell on those things. You have taken a very important step in your life and it is a positive one!! Feel proud for the weight you have lost and if other things in life need improvement then just work on them day to day as best you can. Shed that guilt and negative feelings like you are shedding those pounds!!! Take care, Anita

Anita, ((((((((BIG HUG))))))))) willby

My therapist challenged me to change the "should" way of thinking to "I want to." I try dilligently to say, "I want to." And frankly, there are some things that I just don't want to do. It does help though. Today, I want to walk 2 miles, pack some boxes, and eat healthy.

Ellen, ((((BIG HUG FOR YOU TOO))))) willby

Willby! Good for you!! Get rid of the guilt for things that you cant go back and change!! Your working so hard to stop carrying around so much "weight", why carry around the weight of guilt?? You are so right. The only question I have for you is YOUR NOT OUTGOING??? hello?? have you ever gone through and read your posts from the past?? You have brought so many smiles and so much laughter to this board!! I understand its much easier to be outgoing on a board like this then it is to do in everyday life.. I just have a hard time seeing you as not outgoing.. guess in person you are different then you are on the board.. Thats okay- love ya just the same!! Amber

Amber, Whats that??? I cant hear you from under here willby

Hi Willby, Good for you on recognizing that you should not "should" on yourself anymore. I too am guilty of this very same thing. We as SMOers have been beating up/shoulding on ourselves for so long. It's great when we can all realize that the things that we cannot change is not something we should dwell on. Not an easy thing to get rid of but a good step in the right direction is recognizing that we are doing this to ourselves. Here's to a no more "shoulding" good day! Cassandra

Cassandra, I'm liking this girl!! ((((((((((((BIG HUG)))))))) willby