Can you say..."Cry Baby"?

Hi everybody, Since yesterday was a holiday for some peeps. I went shopping with my sis and one of my sons (our teen-ager went with his friend's family to their cabin) We shopped all over the place. We ended up at Costco. I kept getting asked by my sister and son...are you alright? If you get tired..just let us know..etc,etc. Anyway, I was fine...my back kinda hurt from carrying around my wound vac..but I had it in the cart so I wasn't actually carrying it then. I stood in line with my sis in the check-out. My son did our regular routine and asked us both what did we want from the snack-bar. I looked at that huge menu....and I completely LOST IT! I mean..I started crying...no not crying..sobbing and I just couldn't stop. There was not one thing that I could order safely(without chancing getting sick) Pre-surgery, I could order the hot-dog combo and you name it. I had to go sit down on those picnic tables...facing all these people who were stuffing food in their faces...just what I used to do 8 weeks ago. It is sooo hard to hold in tears. My sis and son felt awful. It wasn't their fault...It was a breakthough for me though. I realized that I had not started to MOURN the comfort of food yet. I had been sooo good and at that point..I was so angry with myself for having the surgery and going through the health problems that I currently am.....I felt sooo sorry for myself. It took awhile but I am fine now. Has this ever happened to any of you..I mean thoughts of "Why did I do this to myself?" Hugs, Virginia aka Ginger aka Cry baby

Ginger Cry Baby No! This Has never happened to me!!! JUST KIDDING!!!!!!!!!!! I remember when my family sat down to Pizza Hut and I literally burst out crying too I just couldnt(and still cant most days) imagine a life without my good old buddy food. I felt so deprived. I felt mad at myself for being fat. I felt mad at my family tree for giving me the fat gene. I was mad at the woman who introduced me to this surgery. I was even angry with Dr. Roux for inventing it(or perfecting it..or whatever he did). As soon as you can start to eat more normally.......you'll feel better. But then you'll be like"OMGODDESS!!! I wish I couldnt eat this stuff now!!!!" (a whole new set of problems) There is definitley a pattern to this surgery and life after it. Most of us will or have gone through what you felt that day. I know it doesnt make it any easier for you..........but, take heart, it will get better!!!! Your crybaby sister willby

Hi Willby, I just don't know what came over me yesterday. I just got so emotional over this food issue. You know, it was weird, when I we got back to my house..my son "tried" to encourage me that "some day" I'll be able to eat like I wanted...I "tried" to explain to him that I didn't want to be able to eat like I want cause that is how I got to where I am today. I couldn't out right tell him that HE shouldn't eat whatever he wanted either. But then I would be bringing in the food police again right??? Hugs to my cry baby sis, Ginger

Virginia, Ohh you had a rough day!! Im so sorry.. I promise it will get better though!! I think almost everyone has atleast 1 moment where they go through the whole "what have I done" stage.. This surgery is not just hard PHYSICALLY... Mentally and emotionally it is very hard.. You are going to have moments when you feel like you have made the biggest mistake in your life- but those moment pass.. In a while you will be able to look at that same menu and find something that you can have!! Even if its just a couple bites of something somewhat healthy!! Your still so early out and choices are pretty limited.. But it does get better.. For me when we are out and I need to eat I always find some kind of salad.. Usually a salad with chicken so that I get some protein too.. It took a long time for me to adjust to being able to eat in public though.. I just ate out (outside my house at all) last week.. I was too afraid to eat in public.. Fear of getting sick, fear eating too much, fear of not being able to find something on the menu.. just fear!! Its not easy!! But it does get better!! Hope you feel better soon Amber

Hi Amber, Thanks for responding to my "cry baby" post. Things are getting easier for me..My nurse thinks my blood clot has dissolved..I "might" get my wound VAC off on Friday and I'm not as nautous as I was last week. I try to see the glass as half full. This thing yesterday just threw me for a loop! It is such a hard thing to all of a sudden start crying..and not have a good reason for doing it. Now my sister is all worried about me and my "emotional health" I just have kept everything inside for so long...I guess hormones got the best of me! Hugs, Virginia aka Ginger

Ginger, I put off having the surgery for 4 years, not being able to picture how I could live without my old friend, food. And I mean the comfort foods. So, when I finally made up my mind to do the surgery, I then started the grieving process, so that I was over it by the time I had the surgery. I definitely cried and had a very hard time. We have to grieve this, we all just do it at different times. Once you really start feeling better from the surgery (no more dealing with the wound vac) and have very good mobility, you will really feel the "nothing tastes as good as thin feels" thing! For real! Lori 384/260.5/168

I'm a cry baby to ginger that has been many days i just sat and balled because i wanted something i couldn't have or watch my family stuff there face and i had this teaspoon of food to make last a half-hr lol i feel ya girl cry all you want.

Oh Marlena, I hear ya girl! You and I both had our surgeries around the Holidays. You and I both had to go through Thanksgiving and Christmas on a very limited diet...and of course all the celebrateing whi*****luded food. And as for the rest of the family...they didn't have the surgery sooooo....why should they have to suffer like we do. These can be such hard times, but you know what??? sometimes that teaspoon of food is all we need to feel normal again. Oh cool..I got another cry baby buddy! hugs, Virginia aka Ginger

Oh my can I relate. I went through the whole crying process about 2 months ago...(see my profile!!!!) I went through the "I HATE EVERYONE BECAUSE THEY CAN EAT" stage too. 2 days after I came home from surgery, my friend came over to cook and clean for me and my family, well needless to say she made a huge spagetti and garlic bread dinner and I wanted to kill her. The smell of garlic bread was killing me. Then a 5 course breakfast the next day and an all out "cook out" for dinner. (It was Memorial Weekend) I wanted to kick some major ass. But I got through it. I'm still trying to "get through it". As everyone says, it does get easier, but sometimes it still is hard. It's ok to cry too. I still do. I am a drive thru junkie (recovering) and I know drive home from work a different way so I don't go past McD's. Can u believe it?? Keep your chin up. I just keep telling myself, look how good I'm looking now. That food is not worth it. And it's not. Hugs!! Carmella

Virginia, I've not had WLS. But I've been on a strict diet and exercise program for more than two years, and for the first seven months, I regularly cried at the grocery. The incident that sticks in my mind, though, is a time in Starbucks when I was waiting to order my nonfat, no-whipped, sugar-free latte. The skinny woman ahead of me ordered a latte with whipped cream and whole milk, and ordered a pastry. I burst into tears and left. Best of luck. Kasey 365/210 (nonop)