OT: Please Pray for my son and our family

I'm so depressed this morning and beside myself. I have 3 boys ages 11,6,and2. Well since my divorce several years ago he hasn't been himself which is understandable. He is in kindergarten this year and has been suspended from school many times because he just refuses to listen to the teacher or pirncipal. He has threatened to kill himself and says how he wants to die. This school year he stayed with his dad ( we have joint custody) because my husband and I are moving over there in a couple of weeks. Anyway we've tried to get him into counseling and no one can work him in for several more weeks and I am becoming scared for him. He is failing kindergarten yet knows how to read, write, and everything they ask him to do, it's just if they ask him or tell him to do it he rebels and won't do it. Well last night my ex- husband took him to one of the local hospitals and had him admitted to the psych ward. This is killing me. I want so bad to just make everything right for my children. I just hope that we've made the right decision for him. I love him so very much and he can be such a sweet and loving boy. I'm just devastated and can't bring myself to do much of anything in the way of packing. I want to be there so bad, but can't due to having to prepare for this move, and he can't have visitors anyway. It just hurts to know I'm so far away and thats my baby and there is nothing I can do. Please pray for us. Anita

Anita, I will definitely keep you and your son in my prayers. I am so sorry that he is going through this pain, hopefully the doctors can help him and you will be moved closer to him before you know it. Divorce is a very hard thing for children, especially when they are young and blame themselves(believe me I know, my parents also got divorced when I started kindergarten) and to be starting school on top of this can be very frightening for a young child. This is just his way of dealing with a lot of feelings and insecurities. I know it is scary for you also but it sounds like your ex is doing the right thing for your son. I pray that things will be better for your family soon. Karyn

ANITA I KNOW IT IS HARD BUT JUST KNOW YOU R SAVING HIM NOW SO HE CAN LEAD A LONG PRODUCTIVE LIFE WITHOUT TROUBLE LATER I KNOW THIS MUST BE DEVASTATING DECISION YOU AND HIS FATHER MADE BUT IT IS GOING TO HELP HIM SO STAY STRONG AND KNOW WE R THERE WITH YOU IN SPIRIT LOVE CANDY

Hi Anita, "BIG HUGS" I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!! It sounds like your ex did a good thing. I know you want to be near your son and make everything all better. Sweetie, one way to help would be to try to keep yourself busy packing and telling yourself that you will soon be closer to your son. Stay strong for your other children and know you are loved!! Hugs Theresa

Anita, I dont know what I can say that these lovely ladies has not already said. I am so sorry to hear that you are having to go through all of this and I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Remember to stay strong and know that you son will get better. Hugs, SipeleK

Anita Sweetie I am here for you! I am so sorry you are going through this. It's hard as a mother not to be able to help one of your childern, but sometimes we just can't. Sometimes we have to step back and let someone help us help them. You and your family will be in my thoughts and please know even though you can't feel it there is an arm around your shoulder and a friends ear readily available anytime you need it!! Please take care of yourself, Jamie

Anita, Given my history of dealing with family members with mental illness I think your ex did the right thing. Have faith. Lori

Anita(((((BIG HUG))))) Your son is in the safest place he can be right now. I know you miss him. I think (for what its worth) that you and your ex made the best decision you could have made. If you need to talk, we're here! willby

First, I want you to know you haven't done anything wrong. Clinical depression in children is not uncommon. Your son shows many of the classic symptoms. This is a medical, physical problem. It can be treated with medication and counseling. Your ex did the right thing, and you're doing the right thing to take care of your little boy. This site may put your mind at ease: http://mhawestchester.org/diagnosechild/cdepress.asp I hope it helps. I hope your son has a swift recovery.

Anita I am so sorry for what you and your son are going thro. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. We are all here for you anytime you need to vent, comment, suggest or whatever. I pray that God will heal the hurt, anger, ect that is going on in your son. And that you and your family will receive peace and happiness. God Bless Melissa