Please Be Kind!

Lawn furniture!! AHHHH!!! I still have the fear of either landing on the ground with a huge hard thump or geting up to walk away with the chair still firmly attached to my butt!!! I do fit into furniture now, but I still have that fear.. Im hoping it will go away someday!! Amber

My parents had just bought lawn furniture a few years ago, when I went to their house to visit. I sat down in one, which fit me width-wise. The stupid chair literally melted under my weight. The legs all bent outward and I hit the floor. I was absolutely humiliated. My father was very angry at the store/factory for making/selling such flimsy furniture. Still, it was absolutely humiliating.

Hi Amber!! Me and mom went shopping yesterday and my last store to go to was JoAnn Fabric's and I was walking in and the lady and the cash register was so big that she was sitting on a stool (that u couldn't see). She couldn't stand to check out her customers out. She looked exactly like I did from behind 7 months ago. I wanted to cry for her. My heart broke for her. I wanted to walk up to her and hug her and tell her it as going to be ok. I looked at my mom and said that was me. My my has always been within her weight range. So it was hard for her to appreciate what was happening for me right at that moment. Carmella

SMO-SEVERELY MORBIDLY OBESE?

Hi Ebony, SMO- Super Morbidly Obese, but severely would fit too! Welcome to the 50+ board!!! Its the best board in the whole world! willby thinsoon

Hi, Amber! let me tell ya, that woman is me too! I have to ask about seating everywhere I go. we go out a lot with our church friends, and they all know to ask for a table. They all make sure I can sit in the chairs ok. It is like the first thing everyone thinks about. Am I going to be comfortable? If not they all decide to go somewhere else. It is horrible. I also have a bad back (2 surgeries) so if one broke and I fell, OH MY.......it would scare me to death! I am so glad that my surgery date is only about 3 weeks away. I almost cry every time i think about it....my life is about to totally change! all my dreams and hopes are about to happen. And as far as people not supporting you...it is just ignorance. They have no way of understanding, because they haven't been there. This surgery is NOT the 'easy way out'. It took me a long time to think that I actually deserved it. I felt as though I got myself into this, and I will have to get myself out of it. That is a crock! It took one of the Pastors at church to get in my face and tell me that I do deserve it,a nd to stop punishing myself, and to get the help if it is there....it doesn't mean I don't have faith or will power. ok.I have rambled long enough......this just struck a cord with me. I'll be on the losing side soon! Sandra