waaaa I am a mess
HI Gloria 
Guess I will chime in on this one too ... like Dorthe (who's only a few weeks further out than I am) I'm living proof that this surgery isn't a "100 pounds only" opportunity. Today I'm 15 lbs away from losing 200 LBS!! My 1st year surgiversary will be in 11 days, and I'm going for the gold ... I want those 15 lbs OFF by then (probably WON'T happen, but it's a goal 
) I'm truly surprised your surgeon told you the "100 lb loss" thing because what surgeons say can tend to boost or undermine our successes.
I was also 400+ and my MAIN worry all along has been that I won't make it to "goal weight" in the opportunity time the surgery grants me. I still worry about that, but not with the same intensity ... and I've realigned my goals as time has passed. I don't HAVE to be exactly 150 lbs (the weight my surgeon set for me) ... I'll be whatever weight I am when I quit losing, and hopefully that will be somewhere UNDER 200 lbs. (I'm 5'7" and won't be disappointed if I can make it to 175 - 180 lbs.) Also, hopefully, I won't STOP losing for quite some time yet.
I think that whatever kind of food was a weakness before surgery comes back to "haunt" us after the blissful initial few months of not wanting food. For some it's sweets, for others (like me) it's carbs-laden food (gimme fried potatoes!!! with onions!!! Gimme corn!!! with butter!!! 
). So we DO end up fighting a war within ourselves to conquer the urges. The good thing is, we have some wonderful tools to use to win ... protein, water, exercise and our pouches. Have I always conquered my urges? Uhm ... NO! And I've beaten myself up over the failures, but then realized I've no way to go but forward with this process ... my bridges were burned behind me with the surgery. So each time I start over with the essentials, and I'm back on track.
This is getting long and I apologize ... but please don't be so hard on yourself. I think you're going through a normal part of the process. Just don't beat yourself up too hard. And please remember you have all of us here to provide what support we can and to lean on. Too many have gone before to show us that the process works, so all we've got to do is stick to the basics, put the essentials first, and have faith.
On an aside, during the first part of my process I was *overwhelmed* by the total amount of weight I had to lose (290 lbs!!), and it just became too much to constantly have riding on my mind. So I stopped looking at the total amount, and started making myself "25 lbs lost" goals instead. It's eased my mind and given me so much more enthusiasm ... and each time I reached my little 25 lbs lost goal, I set a new one. You might try something like this, so the whole amount won't *weigh* (sorry no pun intended) on you so. And don't ever stop thinking ... "You *WILL* be able to do this!!!".
I promise this is the last paragraph (
) ... I have two cousins (sisters) who had both had open RNY on May 20, 1984 ... one has lost 165 lbs, and is at goal ... the other (my height and starting at closer to my surgery weight) has now lost 220 lbs and is still losing ... at almost 2 years out! They have been my inspirations, preceding me by almost a year, so I've had the benefit of their experiences and local support. If you have a local WLS support chapter available to you ... go! It truly does help.
All best wishes and prayers for you!!! (((hugs)))
Myra
442/257/Next goal: 242!!/final goal: ??160 - 180??
Guess I will chime in on this one too ... like Dorthe (who's only a few weeks further out than I am) I'm living proof that this surgery isn't a "100 pounds only" opportunity. Today I'm 15 lbs away from losing 200 LBS!! My 1st year surgiversary will be in 11 days, and I'm going for the gold ... I want those 15 lbs OFF by then (probably WON'T happen, but it's a goal ) I'm truly surprised your surgeon told you the "100 lb loss" thing because what surgeons say can tend to boost or undermine our successes.
I was also 400+ and my MAIN worry all along has been that I won't make it to "goal weight" in the opportunity time the surgery grants me. I still worry about that, but not with the same intensity ... and I've realigned my goals as time has passed. I don't HAVE to be exactly 150 lbs (the weight my surgeon set for me) ... I'll be whatever weight I am when I quit losing, and hopefully that will be somewhere UNDER 200 lbs. (I'm 5'7" and won't be disappointed if I can make it to 175 - 180 lbs.) Also, hopefully, I won't STOP losing for quite some time yet.
I think that whatever kind of food was a weakness before surgery comes back to "haunt" us after the blissful initial few months of not wanting food. For some it's sweets, for others (like me) it's carbs-laden food (gimme fried potatoes!!! with onions!!! Gimme corn!!! with butter!!! ). So we DO end up fighting a war within ourselves to conquer the urges. The good thing is, we have some wonderful tools to use to win ... protein, water, exercise and our pouches. Have I always conquered my urges? Uhm ... NO! And I've beaten myself up over the failures, but then realized I've no way to go but forward with this process ... my bridges were burned behind me with the surgery. So each time I start over with the essentials, and I'm back on track.
This is getting long and I apologize ... but please don't be so hard on yourself. I think you're going through a normal part of the process. Just don't beat yourself up too hard. And please remember you have all of us here to provide what support we can and to lean on. Too many have gone before to show us that the process works, so all we've got to do is stick to the basics, put the essentials first, and have faith.
On an aside, during the first part of my process I was *overwhelmed* by the total amount of weight I had to lose (290 lbs!!), and it just became too much to constantly have riding on my mind. So I stopped looking at the total amount, and started making myself "25 lbs lost" goals instead. It's eased my mind and given me so much more enthusiasm ... and each time I reached my little 25 lbs lost goal, I set a new one. You might try something like this, so the whole amount won't *weigh* (sorry no pun intended) on you so. And don't ever stop thinking ... "You *WILL* be able to do this!!!".
I promise this is the last paragraph () ... I have two cousins (sisters) who had both had open RNY on May 20, 1984 ... one has lost 165 lbs, and is at goal ... the other (my height and starting at closer to my surgery weight) has now lost 220 lbs and is still losing ... at almost 2 years out! They have been my inspirations, preceding me by almost a year, so I've had the benefit of their experiences and local support. If you have a local WLS support chapter available to you ... go! It truly does help.
All best wishes and prayers for you!!! (((hugs)))
Myra
442/257/Next goal: 242!!/final goal: ??160 - 180?? 
Myra 
Hello and thank you,
I also know many people that have lost much more than 100 pounds, I was trying to say that the surgery gaurantees 100 pounds, no matter what we do. But to loose the rest and get to goal is up to us. I am sure thats what he was saying.
I was 448 and the first month or so lost about 50 pounds or better, I was to sick to eat, and of course 4 5 weeks on shakes, at this weight, I was going to drop fast.
But now, the balls in my court. I have the tool, but I must work at it, I could easily consume enough calories now to gain weight, or at the very least stop loosing. I know I must do the foot work now (:
Today is a new day, I had a weigh watchers meal sio far, and feel great. I am already on 50 oz of water
xoxoxxo Gloria
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