Sometimes I feel Skinner...other times.....

Hi All, I don't understand how to wrap my mind around this weight-loss thing. I don't know how to explain it but I'll try. Lately I have been feeling terrific!!! I walk faster and sometimes my face hurts from smiling (just kiddin') Anyways, I dress up...put on my make-up and feel really pretty...I know that I am still fat and have a really long way to go to loose the weight but...I "feel" skinnier. Today I walked by a mirror and I saw NO weight-loss...to me, I looked like I hadn't lost a pound!!! All I could see was a sad fat lady. I think I have also become annoying to my family..I am consantly asking if my clothes look baggy. Do I look like I've lost weight??? Annoying questions like that. Please tell me this has happened to you.. and that I am NOT delutional. The doctor rearranged my guts..not my brain...right?????? I guess I'm HugsGinger

Ginger, Yes your doctor rearranged your guts, not your brain!! And yeah you are slightly crazy!! But we all are! I have no clue how long it takes for our minds to catch up with our bodies. Im 7 months out now and still when I look in a mirror I cant see where Ive lost any weight at all. I know in my head that Im much lighter then I was but I cant see it myself. Mirrors are not friendly to me yet!! I have drove my DH crazy with the questions too... But now I set small goals of 15lbs and only ask when Ive reached the small goal.. That way he gets a break from me asking.. Although- he does understand that I need his honest opinion about clothes!! Its been so long since I had a "figure" that Im not sure when something looks good or not.. Im sure at some point our minds will catch up with our quickly changing bodies, and at that point things will change! Until then you get to drive your family crazy!! Amber

Wow(((((Amber))))) You are up early!!!! I this weight-loss thing is a total trip!!! I feel like I have to appologize to everyone for trying to loose weight....I mean, the flappy arm"bat wings" the fact that your pants or shirts are super baggie...I mean, I just call attention to others who probably didn't notice before anyway. In other words, I end up pulling others into my weird world!!! Gotta love the support of our family, letting us know that we actually did loose weight and we look good. Why can't we believe them? Hugs, Ginger

hi ginger! i'm 14 months out now, and i still have trouble seeing the changes. it's obviously a really hard mindset to get away from. i used to wear 6X clothes, now i can buy XL, so clearly i MUST look different. lots of people tell me how great i'm looking, but i just don't seem to be able to see it. every morning when i'm pulling a shirt or sweater over my head, and i feel the size of it with my arms, i think "this will NEVER fit me", even though i wore the same item last week and it fit! anyway, i don't have any answers for you, just wanted you to know that you're not alone in this "delusional" feeling! hang in there. deb -242

Hi Deb, What is weird is that I can look at you my dear; with 242 pounds down and be totally shocked that you don't see what others obviously see!! On the other hand, I can't "see" the progress on myself!!! I guess this keeps us from getting a "swelled head" but good grief, this is ridiculas!!! Thanks for your input. You are truly an inspiration for all of us! HugsGinger

Hi Ginger, I will add my 2 cents here too. Im going on 2 years out and I just started to see a difference in myself on a regular basis about 2 or 3 months ago. I am down almost 180lbs and it took that long this long to "get it" in my head. I would see it in pictures, and see my smaller sizes, and my "big bat wings", but not what others saw. I STILL dont see the "Amazing" difference that I hear others say to me. I do see it, but I still can look at an old picture and see myself in it. However, your head does catch up eventually, and you feel thinner all the time. I would feel my new "bones" in my neck and shoulders and hips and be amazed. Now, it is just there and once in a while I think about how lucky I am to be able to feel them. Keep going girl, its all normal and things are falling right in place for you. Hugs, Soos PS: Make sure your "twinnie" reads this too! She feels the same way you do

Hi ((((((Soos) You are loved by sooo many here! Good for you..almost 2 years out and "starting" to feel thinner. I want it to be 1 year from now....right now!!! Do I ask for too much??? I think I have. Good luck with the head catching up with the reality of your shrinking body. I think we as SMO's are probably more impatient with getting results than others that have to lose 50 pounds to get to goal. Please wave a magic wand on all of us here in SMO-land and make us all skinny!!! Hugs and smiles, Ginger

Ok Ginger Here you are Thats about all I can do for you! There is no majic wand, but when you get to where I am, if feels like it flew by. I agree with us SMO's being impatient. We want it NOW! But before you know it, NOW will be here. THanks for your nice compliments. I wish I could help all of you get to where I am now. I care about all of you and will always be here for everyone. Hugs Soos

Ginger's 'Twin' is here and accounted for! And yes I feel the same way she does. I don't see it either Ginger, but at least you are feeling better, which is oh so important. I still feel like a 416 pounds SMO! Hopefully I will catch up soon, and at least start to feel better. My 3-month post op visit with my surgeon is later this afternoon. Fingers and toes are crossed! Huggs, Ruth

Hey Sis, Glad you see you read this and that you are not alone in this battle. Please let me know how you make out today. Hugs, Soos