OK ... so it was hard NOT to be insulted ...

Our swim class finally found another pool to use, so we're back at it again ... and a new member joined. So ... we're exercising away, and she moves over by me and says (keep in mind I don't know her from *ADAM*) ... she says ... "You know, I'd just like to *get ahold of you*!" Taken aback (and wondering about her suddenly) I just stood there like a dummy and said, "Why?" (I know, I'm sooooooooo sophisticated!! ) She then said, "I just want to dye that gray hair of yours and put some better make up on you ... I could make you look so-o-o-o-o-o-oo--o much better!!!" I just kind of laughed and got back in to exercising, thinking *HOW RUDE*!!! A little later she started talking about my hair to the others and how "didn't it need dying, and didn't I need more color in my face and didn't I need my eyebrows worked on ..." on and on ... and still I just laughed and didn't say much back. (What's wrong with me, anyway??) After our exercise, we spend 5 mins in the hot tub relaxing, and I'll be dam*ed if she didn't start in again about my hair being gray, my makeup being too pale, etc etc etc!! At first I was going to just slough it off like the other times, but by then she was wearing on my nerves with the whole thing, and I ended up saying "My hair is gray, I used to dye it, but just got tired of the whole routine ... it's not likely I'll start in again, so ... try working your *magic* on someone else please". Geez I hate to sound off to people, but the woman was like a dog gnawing at a bone, and I was becoming insulted. My Momma's raising *almost* got me through the class, but at the last minute, it failed me and I had to say something. I know ... off topic from WLS ... but can you believe some people???!!! thanks for listening. MJBG

How rude!!! It takes all kinds don't it. You were nicer than I would of been. The way I look at it is if they have the guts to say something like that I have the guts to rip 'em a new one. Cindy

OhhMyy.. I dont know how you managed to keep quiet for so long! The nerve of some people just amaze me! I think I would have been pretty rude and let her know exactly what I thought.. But then Im not as nice as most people around here! Amber

You're not nice? OH yeah ... like I believe that!!! Not true, not true!!! (((hugs))) MJ

Myra, I admire you for not doing the dying your hair thing anymore. I want to, but, I'm to afraid of how it will look as it is growing out! But, I will at some point. I really don't think it is healthy. Your experience reminds me of a water aerobics class I was at about 4 years ago. There was another member who looked quite thin and was exercising next to me. She proceeded to tell me how she had had WLS and that I should do it too. I told her I wasn't interested (I wasn't at the time.) She got very indignant with me, then she quit talking to me. It really made me mad. Even though WLS has worked out for me, I really don't think it is for anyone to try and "talk" someone into the surgery. It is too damned risky! Enjoy your freedom from hair dying!!! Lori

Well, thanks everyone ... it's always great to have friends' support! This *lady* is 58, has HER hair dyed very very blonde, wears it in a pony-tailed *do* with one of those huge multi-looped ribbons, does tanning bed (her admission), and wears lots and lots of makeup (even in the pool), has fingernails and toenails *done* to a tee. I'm certainly not knocking that for her or anyone ... it's her style ... but it's not mine. I could have said something derogatory back, but my Mother always looms up in my conscience shaking her head and finger at me when I get ready to do that So I have to think ... to each his/her own ... and let it go. I just thought I'd tell you all about it (shaking head here) because she just took me so by surprise and I thought it was so extremely RUDE. Lori, A few years ago I fell in the bathtub (could I have gotten more predictable?? ) and broke my shoulder. It was then that I got the courage (didn't really have a choice) to stop dying my hair. I was in a sling for about 8 weeks and couldn't manage my usual home dying with only one hand, and I'm way too cheeeeeeapcheeapcheeeap to pay $50 at a salon. So I just told my hairdresser (I do have one ) to cut it all off as short as possible, so the growing-out wouln't be so traumatic for me. It was then that I discovered just *HOW* gray-haired I really was and WOW was that a jolt! Since then, I've had any number of times I've thought ... dye it!!! ... but then, in my mind, I have this vision of how it would look dark with *white* roots, and that always keeps me from starting it up again. It would look like a skunk! (((hugs everyone))) MJ

I am sure the lady meant well. but some people have no manners or gouth as I call it. She probably didnt realize she was being rude. How I dont know. sounds as if she keep it up. You were right in finaling saying something. We love you as you are Myra. good luck. love marie

Hey Myra, Just want you to know that you are beautiful with gray hair. You are beautiful from the inside too which is much more important then from the outside. And this women obviously is not beautiful from the inside, so she has to "primp" the outside to feel good about herself. If you ever are ready for a change, it will be because you want to do make a change for yourself. I finally got my hair colored for the first time 3 months ago. I love it, but I wanted to change it because I wanted a new me from head to toe just to feel younger. It works for me, but only for now. Who knows what I will feel next week LOL. Anyway, dont let other peoples insecurities effect you. Hugs, Soos

Aww ... Soos, those were sweet things to say and I appreciate it. ((hugs)) And I definitely understand the need to make a change ... I just haven't figured out what yet! You're looking wonderful!!! I love your newer picture! thanks again Myra

Thanks Myra, I guess you can see the blonde highlights in the new pic. I can thank Miss Candy for that one, she made me do itwhile I was in GA. But I love it now. Anyway, thanks for the compliment. Im sure you will come up with an idea that will make you feel good when you are ready, if not, go see Candy Hugs, Soos