my Dr. made me mad and i wanted to cry!

I went to a new Psychologist, and during my session with him about my anxiety problems he suggested a pill that would not only help my anxiety but surpress my appitete and help me lose weight Now im not normally hateful with people I just meet but, i waited for 2 hrs in his office before they called me back and i was mad.... So i told him in a VERY VERY rude manor...."I had Gastric bypass surgery, and i have lost 140lb's so i don't think i need anything that is going to surpress what appetite i do have" man i was so hurt... but then it hit me. to me i have lost alot of weight and i look SSSSOOOOO much smaller then pre-op but for somone that has just meet me I'm still rather obese and so i felt bad i got so short tempered with him... Anyone else have this happen?? Marlena

I think you need to find a new doc. He obviously had no tact and was lacking in sensitivity. He made up his mind about what he thought the problem is and then he couldn't address the real problem. I'm glad you told him what was what!! Keep up the good work!!! Jennifer

and now you're feeling anxious about being short tempered with him, aren't you? look at it this way, you probably taught him a couple rather valuable lessons - if he chooses to learn from them. 1. never assume. you'd think he would know that in his profession, but... 2. don't keep people waiting for two hours in your office. i'd of blown up, too, marlena. i'm glad you told him and i hope you stop feeling badly about it soon. for the most part we, as females, were raised to be way too nice. i'm glad you stood up for yourself. hope you find a better professional soon. in the meantime, take care dorthe

Hi Marlena, Your time is valuable too--it is rude to keep you waiting for 2 hours. I know that I wouldn't go see anyone that made me wait for two hours--I would have left and found someone else. I hope he at least apologized about being so late as well as rude. Is it in your history that you have had bypass sugery? If so why didn't he read your chart before he brought you back? Even if the bypass wasn't recorded he is suppose to be professional--lord only knows those guys DO go to school long enough to know that there are ways to ask a person a question. Believe it or not people with advanced degrees are supposed to know about professionalism because they learn it in school--I guess we know who got a D in class. I'm sorry that that happened to you--he was a jackass. Mary

You had every right to be rude and rip his head off... Maybe he'll be a little more sensitive to someone else thanks to you. His behavior is inexcusable. Dorthe is right about women always being raised to be "nice" and I would add that being SMO makes us take on alot of the blame and shame and we own things that aren't ours. You've worked so very hard and you're doing so well... Dayum Skippy you should have taken up for yourself!!!!

You did the right thing Marlena! I've pretty much switched to all females for physicians...they are so much more empathetic and care about the whole patient. Lori

Marlena, I would assume you had to fill out a questionnaire outlining health history before you got to see this caring individual?? If so, then apparently he's not good in the reading department either ... because I can't imagine you wouldn't have listed one of *the* most important medical procedures you've ever had in your life ... nor would any of us ... and therefore, he should have seen that little "tidbit" of information about you had he done his homework before he even came in the room and opened his mouth. I worked for Drs. all of my adult life, and why they don't bother to read the information a patient so painstakingly provides up front is beyond me. Don't feel bad about having sounded off to him ... believe me, he learned long ago in med school how NOT to listen to a patient! It rolled, Marlena, right off his back, like water off a duck's patooty. If he learned anything from it, well good, but it wouldn't be the norm for Drs. You did good, Yay! for you!!! and (((Hugs))) Myra