Family Not Understanding of Surgery

W.L.S. seems to be far more accepting and looked upon as necessary in the States than in Canada. My parents are not underdstanding of my descion to have the surgery. I mean they will drive me down to the States and pick me up.They would even stay with me thru it but I asked them not too. They are 4 hours closer to the facility I am going to so my husband is driving 3 hours and taking me part way to meet them. I also know they would care for me after, if it weren't for the fact I want my husband to do this. My parents have been loving, supportive ,kind people my whole life but in this area they are really confused and upset. We had a big blow up over the phone and I yelled at them for not understanding that I am doing this to help me end my fight and daily battle with obesity. They have seen me lose weight before but feel it was not kept off because of my poor decisions with food. Sure it has!.. but climb inside my brain for a day and they would be scrambling to get the hell out!!!!!! Only addicts can understand addicts I guess and my parents have never had this issue. They have never been obese. I reminded them about Carnie Wilson and Star Jones. Why would 2 rich woman who could afford personal trainers, chefs and anything else have to resort to surgery?? Anyways my mom said it would be best to not tell the family because they will not understand my drastic decision to lose weight this way. I told her, 'Its nobodies ******g business anyways" Then she got angry, that I got angry and that she was only thinking of Grandma and my aunt because they would be upset and worried about me. The fact is no one in my family would understand. I know that for a fact.... and even a couple of friends who I see a few times a year I am worried about telling because I am tired of having to prove myself of why this surgery is necessary. If I was told someone was getting a heart transplant I would not say, 'Why are you doing that? 'There must be some other way?' 'If you had just had a healthier life none of this would have to happen, blah, blah, blah'.. In the end, I know this is the path I must take. I have no doubt in my mind. I know a couple years down the road they will see the light of my journey.....Anyways I just want many of you to know that you are so blessed to have supportive family and friends cuz it really hurts when they don't understand. Jennifer

Being a Christian, I use the following when I meet with criticisms from other Christians: I just remind them that food has become a god to me, and point out Matthew 8:18. "If your hand or foot causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life lame or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet, to be cast into the everlasting fire." Well, my stomach is causing me to sin. So I'm doing something about it. Best of luck. - Jim from Pittsburgh