How common is friendship-loss after WLS???

Then it's time for a change.  You are intelligent and reasonably attractive.  What else do you need?  Maybe you should get out of your car once in a while?  But who am I to talk?  I'm a dog.

Patty, it is after 11 pm, I'm still on my steroid buzz, I had THREE hours of sleep last night, I SHOULD be in bed, and I'm laughing my ass off at your response to Steve.   

After what you've been through lately, making you laugh is a great compliment.  Julie girl, I always aim to please.

It sure seems to happen a lot, from the stories I read on these boards. I guess I've been really fortunate, because thus far it's been a non-issue. A few people in my circle of acquaintances have had that "OMG" moment of realizing they were now bigger than I am. I could see it register, if you know what I mean? But despite the moment of obvious mixed emotions, they have all, to a person, been nothing but kind and supportive and joyous at seeing me recovering my long lost health.  Apparently this is unusual, though, and I'm sad to think about that :-(. I remember when this subject came up a year or more ago, when I was just a couple months out, and I was blown away by some of the stories people told. NOWHERE have I gotten anything remotely resembling that kind of reaction. At the time, I commented that I couldn't imagine anyone in my social circle being like that to me. Someone said, "Come back in a year and tell me what's happened." I guess I'm really, really fortunate, or blessed, to not have this kind of negativity from people in my life.

Maybe it's because your health was soooo obviously threatened by your obesity that your friends truly knew this was the only way, were truly thrilled at your success, and knew it was about life not looks?  Not to mention they truly got a friend they can be friends with AND enjoy other things now.  ?????  Just thinking outloud, I guess.  Most of us don't live with the imminet threat of serious medical issues.  We know it can, it may, someday, but your case was pretty 'in your face' I think?

See, I'm the complete opposite in pre-op situation than Elizabeth was. I was healthy as a horse. So losing weight only brought back the person that I used to be, and none of my friends was upset with the change. A bit incredulous that I'm staying so healthy, yes, but none of these awful reactions that some people get. I feel so terribly bad for those that lose friends that really only had them around for convenience. I just don't get people that treat other people that way, I really don't. It's just wrong. I mean, who the hell do they think they are?

I haven't lost any friends either, due to weightloss - through kind of attrition maybe, but not weightloss.  Probably because I've done this so many times my friends think it's a phase that will pass and I'll be back to my old self again ;-0  (just kidding)

Yeah, that's pretty much what I figure. Anyone who cared about me knew I was in very deep **** and just about out of hope. So the "great transformation" seems to be a delight to all involved, far as I can tell :-).