3 days out. miserable. in so much pain. huge regrets.

i knew it would hurt but i had no idea it would hurt this much. i have never been in so much pain in my life. want to die. would rather be fat than in this much pain. can't stop crying. can't ever see being able to hold my children again.

you should not be in this much pain!!!
I was never in so much pain that I felt like death was a better alternative! YIKES!

Get some pain medication!!  ASK for it - don't be afraid to be your own advocate!

Erika,
I'm sorry you're having so much trouble. What kind of pain meds are you on? Can you get something stronger....I don't think you should be in so much pain. Have you talked to your surgeon about pain management?

Hang in there. IT WILL GET BETTER!!!!!!!

Oh, Erica... it sounds like you need to contact your surgeon and get a better plan for pain management.  This too will pass.  And, it should pass more easily than it is with the right combination of drugs.  You will be able to hold your kids again, we promise.  

Hang in there, post op early out is challenging and sometimes shockingly different feeling.  You will feel human again.  Can you have your support person call your clinic and let them know you are suffering so much?

d2k (12 weeks op and just started to love my DS, you'll get there too) 

Your pain should be managed better than that. If your pain meds aren't working then ask for something different. I had very little pain. I was sore at the incision site but never in major pain. Like Peach said, you have to be your own advocate. It doesn't have to be like this. Hope you can get a better handle on the pain. It does get better and you'll be holding your kids in no time.

What others have said ... more pain meds!   Kinda weird your still in pain now anyway ... should be sore but not in pain.  Anyway get more drugs so you don't care about anything right now.  Rest and drink!  Don't worry bout nothing else!

What do you tell the Mother's when they get like this? 

Of course you are going to be in pain, you just had major surgery.  If the meds are not working, call your surgeon or go to the emergency room.  Effective pain management is your right as a patient.   However, the first step of course, is to have your surgeon rule out anything that may be causing undue pain; leaks, infection and obstructions come to mind.  But also do not forget the fact, that, anesthesia can play havoc with your emotions and that in turn can play havoc with your reactions to pain.  The smallest discomfort can be exacerbated into major pain when your emotions are running the train.  The constant crying makes me think that may be part of the problem.  That is not to say the pain is not real.  So in addition to better pain meds you might want to think about asking for something for anxiety. 

Red

Erica - I'm so sorry you're in pain. 
Do as all the others have recommended, something obviousley isn't right. 
I'm wondering as a duala, are you anti-meds?  Make sure you're taking what your body needs.

Also, I'd encourage you find someone ASAP to talk with and share your honest emotions with.  You're such an upbeat, beautiful person, I'd hate to see you anxious or depressed.  Next year this time you'll not only be picking up one of your children but wrestling with all four because of the amount of energy you'll have.

God Bless,
Kelly

There are no points for martyrdom.  You should be uncomfortable, but not in that much pain.  Call the doc!

Like everyone else here has said - call your surgeon.  And be gentle with yourself.  Before you know it you'll be snuggling your kids again.