Traveling and dealing with grief as a newly post-op.
People will understand. You have to take care of yourself, but really, when grieving, I think your just being there will do a lot.
Try your best. You'll get back on the program when you get back.
Try your best. You'll get back on the program when you get back.
sw:298/cw:152/no goal set
"Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open." --J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire
"Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open." --J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire
So sorry for your and your husbands loss.
Take care of yourself first, then take that extra care for your husband as well.
i agree with the power of touch. Hold his hand, stroke his arm, let him know that you are a team in all things.
My only other suggestion is to plan naps. It will be a very very busy time but it is okay to plan several 1/2 hour breaks with legs up and quiet time. Your body is healing and this will be an additional stress on it.
One thing I know helps for me is that while we are all together sitting shiva, we make sure to ask friends for the funniest story about the person. When did they first meet, how did they meet. It lets the family hear wonderful stories about the person they love. You knew her as a daughter they may have known her as a young woman, a bride, a new mother to your husband how precious to know more about her. Also it usually comforts the mourners to be able to speak lovingly about the departed it is healing for all together to celebrate her life.
Take care of yourself first, then take that extra care for your husband as well.
i agree with the power of touch. Hold his hand, stroke his arm, let him know that you are a team in all things.
My only other suggestion is to plan naps. It will be a very very busy time but it is okay to plan several 1/2 hour breaks with legs up and quiet time. Your body is healing and this will be an additional stress on it.
One thing I know helps for me is that while we are all together sitting shiva, we make sure to ask friends for the funniest story about the person. When did they first meet, how did they meet. It lets the family hear wonderful stories about the person they love. You knew her as a daughter they may have known her as a young woman, a bride, a new mother to your husband how precious to know more about her. Also it usually comforts the mourners to be able to speak lovingly about the departed it is healing for all together to celebrate her life.
Gratitude is my attitude 
Amanda-DS October 2001
highest >350/342 start of wls journey/ 192 @8years
Amanda-DS October 2001
highest >350/342 start of wls journey/ 192 @8years
First of all Im so sorry for your loss.
I have not had my DS yet but I know that you can do this. Remember you have to come first or you wont be able to take care of anyone else.
We are all here for you if you need us. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
HUGS
Ruby
I have not had my DS yet but I know that you can do this. Remember you have to come first or you wont be able to take care of anyone else.
We are all here for you if you need us. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
HUGS
Ruby
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HW/SW/CW/GW 346/335/183/150 5'4.25"
Jenna, I am sorry for the loss of your MIL, and my sympathy to your husband too. I am sure that your husband is aware of your needs now and I hope he considers them even in his sorrow. Yes, you have to take care of yourself, but hoping your husband extends his loving care to you as you need his help and encouragement at this time. Good luck.
KAREN W.
I LOVE MY DS!!!!!
STRIVE TO BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE AND DO THE BEST THAT YOU CAN.
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SW: 234.5 CW: 157 GW: 140 - ish
(((Jenna)))
I'm so sorry for your loss! I'm sorry that I'm late to this thread too. What a lot to have to deal with at once.
Just remember that nothing takes precedence over your hydration right now. Make sure you have plenty of bottled water in the car, or wherever you can get at it at all times. Your body has plenty of stored vitamins, etc., and it isn't essential for you to get all of your protein in right now. But hydration is essential!
You're in my prayers hon. Don't stress. Just take things one moment at a time, and keep drinking.
I'm so sorry for your loss! I'm sorry that I'm late to this thread too. What a lot to have to deal with at once.
Just remember that nothing takes precedence over your hydration right now. Make sure you have plenty of bottled water in the car, or wherever you can get at it at all times. Your body has plenty of stored vitamins, etc., and it isn't essential for you to get all of your protein in right now. But hydration is essential!
You're in my prayers hon. Don't stress. Just take things one moment at a time, and keep drinking.
Jenna, I just wanted to send warm love and peace to you and your husband (and family) at this time. All I can say is just breathe when you can. Breathe..
We Are A Fever. We Are A Fever. We ain't born typical. ~ The Kills
If you have any g-ddamn sense and want WLS, think about the DS.www.dsfacts.com
If you have any g-ddamn sense and want WLS, think about the DS.www.dsfacts.com
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