What to do with 2 diff surgery dates RNY or DS?
So, I have a scheduled surgery date for the RNY on Dec 8th that my Tricare insurance approved. My insurance will not cover the procedure (DS) I wanted locally.
After some research and phone calling last week, I now have a second surgery date of Dec 18th, all the way across the country for the procedure I hoped for (DS) covered under the military facility there.
I am trying to figure out all the details to see if I can make the financial commitment, and the schedule work out for me to get to the West Coast by the preOp date of Dec 14th!
I would have to find a way to fund the airplane tickets for me & three kids, my husband will be deployed to the Mid East for a year. And figure out where we'll stay during the procedure.
Or do I just stay here where my local support group is and get the RNY surgery here.... hmmm praying for the doors to open!
After some research and phone calling last week, I now have a second surgery date of Dec 18th, all the way across the country for the procedure I hoped for (DS) covered under the military facility there.
I am trying to figure out all the details to see if I can make the financial commitment, and the schedule work out for me to get to the West Coast by the preOp date of Dec 14th!
I would have to find a way to fund the airplane tickets for me & three kids, my husband will be deployed to the Mid East for a year. And figure out where we'll stay during the procedure.
Or do I just stay here where my local support group is and get the RNY surgery here.... hmmm praying for the doors to open!
HW: 260 / SW: 254 / CW: 140 on 01/15/13 Orig GW: 150 ~Jeremiah 29:11
You'll find a way to work it out. Its too important. Its not just like the black shoes or the brown shoes, you know?
Can any family pitch in with the kids? Can you farm them out one by one to cousins, aunts, grandparents? Make it like a super secret individual camp for each of them? That way you'd each be packing for camp! I don't know old they are, though. Teenagers would just roll their eyes at you if you tried that!
Can any family pitch in with the kids? Can you farm them out one by one to cousins, aunts, grandparents? Make it like a super secret individual camp for each of them? That way you'd each be packing for camp! I don't know old they are, though. Teenagers would just roll their eyes at you if you tried that!
* Take 1 DS, add a little p90x and stir :)5' 3" HW 293/SW 253/Goal 130/CW 128
Tassia, I hope so... haha I agree not a shoe issua at all, huh? :)
I am working on seeing if my mom/parents can help out with the kids by bringing their motorhome over, but financially this economy is tough for us both. Grandparents are passed on, but checking on options.
Haha good ideas, may have to figure out some adventure. Yes, our teenager would laugh too. :)
Thank you again for your replys, its helpful to have the support of others who have gone this path before.
I am working on seeing if my mom/parents can help out with the kids by bringing their motorhome over, but financially this economy is tough for us both. Grandparents are passed on, but checking on options.
Haha good ideas, may have to figure out some adventure. Yes, our teenager would laugh too. :)
Thank you again for your replys, its helpful to have the support of others who have gone this path before.
You sound like a real sweetheart who has spent a long time looking after everyone else. As others have said, your 17 year old sounds like she can handle herself and her part time job for a while hanging out with friends. Surely, someone she works with her can give her a ride for a few days. And if your mom can come stay with them-bonus! The only one who might blink an eye is your four year old. And once you come back, he won't even remember.
You need to do this for yourself. Its too important of a decision, with the differences being so great, that settling for an RNY would be a shame. Its ok to take some time for yourself. I find that every once in a while, when I step back and look out for me, it makes me a BETTER mom. My kids are college aged, but they still need to know they have their home-base behind them. And I know I need to take care of myself just as much as I need to take care of them.
You need to do this for yourself. Its too important of a decision, with the differences being so great, that settling for an RNY would be a shame. Its ok to take some time for yourself. I find that every once in a while, when I step back and look out for me, it makes me a BETTER mom. My kids are college aged, but they still need to know they have their home-base behind them. And I know I need to take care of myself just as much as I need to take care of them.
* Take 1 DS, add a little p90x and stir :)5' 3" HW 293/SW 253/Goal 130/CW 128
Is there anyone in your local support circle (family, friends) who could take care of your kids while you fly to the West Coast? Seems to me that would be a better and less costly option.
If you know in your heart the DS is what you want, I hope you can find a way to make it work. As Georgina wisely said, this is something you are going to have to live with for the rest of your life.
If you know in your heart the DS is what you want, I hope you can find a way to make it work. As Georgina wisely said, this is something you are going to have to live with for the rest of your life.
Jenna, I actually considered that option, but with my husband deployed I didn't want to leave the kids without at least one parent for long (hard enough on them with him gone), and especially over the holidays. Yes it would be the best choice financially, but I am praying we can somehow work out the finances & details. I do have family in WA & OR, so hopefully it will all work out. Thanks for your reply.
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