I HATE CPAP MACHINE!!

They are available many places but I've found some to be very hard.  You will probably need to experiment to find what you like.  The one I use I ordered from QVC.  It is two layers--one is memory foam, the other is fiberfill.  I use the memory foam side up with a soft down or down-like pillow on top.  I like that I can create a small gap beneath my mask and the soft pillow so that it doesn't put pressure on the mask and make it leak/hiss.  This keeps me up every time and drives both of us crazy.  FYI--I tried an $80 "special pillow for c-pap users" from my sleep disorder doc's office and knew immediately it was too hard for me.  Thankfully they took it back. 

Maybe in time we won't need these machines.  In the meantime try different things until you hit upon what works for you.

Lisa

I will. Thanks so much

It's an ugly beast, but it could save your life. Would you rather "quietly die in your sleep" of asphyxiation? Cuz that's where you're headed with sleep apnea.

Things sleep apnea can do to you:
--mess up your metabolism
--make you gain weight
--give you high blood pressure
--make you depressed
--make you psychotic
--ruin your memory
--make you clumsy and accident prone
--DRAMATICALLY increase pain levels of any chronic pain condition
--lower your pain threshold
--cause a heart attack
--cause a stroke or other brain injury

.....And I remember all those without looking up any of my bookmarked bits of research.

I get that it's emotionally difficult. But it would be a lot harder on your BF if he had to bury you because you "died quietly in your sleep."

Thank your lucky stars that you got diagnosed and that it's so treatable. Hopefully you will be able to get rid of the CPAP after your surgery and losing some weight. I had no such luck, but that's okay. I'd rather be alive and look like an elephant when I sleep :-).

That was very firm, and direct. Thank you. I neede that. And yes, he would hate to bury me.
    And you know what?? My memory is TERRIBLE and I have fallen 2 times in the last month. I feel sooo tired 24-7.  I am gonna make my cpap machine work for me. Thank you to everyone! You ALL put things in perspective for me.