Is DS dangerous??
Ms. Cal Culator
on 3/31/10 7:37 am - Tuvalu
on 3/31/10 7:37 am - Tuvalu
On March 31, 2010 at 1:54 PM Pacific Time, abandster wrote:
You have no idea what Emily and I have been thru together. She and I have worked thru this journey for a few years now. I know there are hateful people on all these boards and I have heard from more than one person that the people on the DS board are the worse and you're helping prove that.
I'm not the right support group leader for everybody and offer those who contact me a list of all the local groups and encourage them to try them all and pick the one that's right for them.
You can bet your life that I won't ever post on the DS board again and will encourage Emily to find the right group for her. As one other poster mentioned, she can get support here on the board 24/7/265. And like I said in another post, Emily has gotten most of her support from our group via email. She's only attended two meetings as she lives a good distance from us and we're NOT the closest group to her.
I've read some of your "advice."
Have you told "your people" that their chance of losing much weight at all disappears right around a BMI of 46?
Did you tell them that YOUR goal is higher than your doctor says you should weigh, but you'll be very happy "settling" on a higher weight and, even then, you haven't reached that goal and it's been four-and-a-half years? That you actually have no plan or even DREAM to get to a normal weight? Have you shared that?
And the band...have you REALLY told folks how many of them are in for at least one more surgery? (If you haven't had yours, just wait.)
Do YOUR homework...at least on the band. If you really feel you are being truthful, then there's a lot you missed. And back away from the DS...you are clueless.
Do you think a big red bold font adds any believability to your rantings?
Yes, you've been sooooo helpful to Emily that she came here in distress after your "help."
You poor widdle baby, thinking you've been treated "hatefully." You must live a very charmed life if you never get called out for spreading lies and misinformation. Guess what? It just ended here.
Yes, you've been sooooo helpful to Emily that she came here in distress after your "help."
You poor widdle baby, thinking you've been treated "hatefully." You must live a very charmed life if you never get called out for spreading lies and misinformation. Guess what? It just ended here.
On March 31, 2010 at 1:54 PM Pacific Time, abandster wrote:
You have no idea what Emily and I have been thru together. She and I have worked thru this journey for a few years now. I know there are hateful people on all these boards and I have heard from more than one person that the people on the DS board are the worse and you're helping prove that.
I'm not the right support group leader for everybody and offer those who contact me a list of all the local groups and encourage them to try them all and pick the one that's right for them.
You can bet your life that I won't ever post on the DS board again and will encourage Emily to find the right group for her. As one other poster mentioned, she can get support here on the board 24/7/265. And like I said in another post, Emily has gotten most of her support from our group via email. She's only attended two meetings as she lives a good distance from us and we're NOT the closest group to her.
She's on her own the other 100 days?
* Take 1 DS, add a little p90x and stir :)5' 3" HW 293/SW 253/Goal 130/CW 128
On March 31, 2010 at 5:25 PM Pacific Time, Tassia wrote:
On March 31, 2010 at 1:54 PM Pacific Time, abandster wrote:
You have no idea what Emily and I have been thru together. She and I have worked thru this journey for a few years now. I know there are hateful people on all these boards and I have heard from more than one person that the people on the DS board are the worse and you're helping prove that.
I'm not the right support group leader for everybody and offer those who contact me a list of all the local groups and encourage them to try them all and pick the one that's right for them.
You can bet your life that I won't ever post on the DS board again and will encourage Emily to find the right group for her. As one other poster mentioned, she can get support here on the board 24/7/265. And like I said in another post, Emily has gotten most of her support from our group via email. She's only attended two meetings as she lives a good distance from us and we're NOT the closest group to her.
She's on her own the other 100 days?
On March 31, 2010 at 12:26 PM Pacific Time, abandster wrote:
Emily is not wasting any time with this support group. She lives some distance from the meeting location and we've only seen her at the meeting twice. Her "attendance" is via email.And I posted a reply to Major Mom that I hope you'll read. I also posted another comment with someone else here (sorry I can't remember her name) but the bottom line is I want to make sure Emily knows all the ins and outs of the surgery before she gets on the plane.
I'd like to think that nobody who attends our meetings thinks they're wasting their time. Of course, if they thought that, I guess they wouldn't come back. I have people who have been with our group for almost every single meeting since we formed 4 years ago. So it can't be too bad.
I did do my homework on the DS. It wasn't for me but one rule of the support group is "no talking down a surgery you didn't have and no talking down a surgeon you didn't choose". What's right for me may not be right for you. You don't talk down about me and my surgery and I don't talk down about you and your surgery. The conversation I had with Emily was a private one and I never talked down about the surgery. I just wanted to make sure she was going about this with her eyes open.
LaWanda
So, the part where you told her the mortality rate was higher with the DS, and it was a "quick fix", and she very well might be embarassed by gas or poop while standing in front of her class, or would get sick from not taking vitamins isn't dissing the surgery?
Cool beans. I want to live in your universe.
abandster
on 3/31/10 7:02 am
on 3/31/10 7:02 am
The rule applies at the support group meeting and this was a private conversation between me and Emily.
As an OH support group leader, it is suggested that we inform all prospective surgery candidate about all the good and all the bad.
I have done my best in one on one conversations and never bring up these types of pros and cons during a scheduled support group meeting.
Again, this was a private conversation. Emily miss spoke about my having a cow. I was calm and I don't see any cows on the property so she was wrong.
As an OH support group leader, it is suggested that we inform all prospective surgery candidate about all the good and all the bad.
I have done my best in one on one conversations and never bring up these types of pros and cons during a scheduled support group meeting.
Again, this was a private conversation. Emily miss spoke about my having a cow. I was calm and I don't see any cows on the property so she was wrong.
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