Love after weightloss
I had a long drive alone tonight and my mind was wondering over all the things I look forward to post DS.
dancing without my knees screaming for mercy
ice skating without feeling like a woman in a fat suit
sitting in my car without my butt hanging over the edge..which let me to the thought of all the HANGING I know I will have post op.
I sure hope there is some sort of fetish group out there of men who love women with lose hanging skin. Excluding the murdering guy from The SILENCE OF THE LAMBS. My extra skin isn't going for some creapy suit, I will let my surgeon donate it to burn victims or something. :)
Cheers,
Dana
dancing without my knees screaming for mercy
ice skating without feeling like a woman in a fat suit
sitting in my car without my butt hanging over the edge..which let me to the thought of all the HANGING I know I will have post op.
I sure hope there is some sort of fetish group out there of men who love women with lose hanging skin. Excluding the murdering guy from The SILENCE OF THE LAMBS. My extra skin isn't going for some creapy suit, I will let my surgeon donate it to burn victims or something. :)
Cheers,
Dana
She rubs the lotion on the skin........sorry had a moment there!
I was drawn in by your title. I found my sex life hit the skids post DS because I have NO I REPEAT NO SEX DRIVE. Where the **** did that go? I assume it is a combination of radically fat stored e-numbers and toxic avenger type chemicals being systematically released by my blubber stores that keeps me in a near sexual catatonia. Luckily for me I have a truly wonderful guy with very low expectations.
So tonight FINALLY I felt the stirring of amore and decided to get down and funky but the problem was it was minus 2 in our bedroom in the middle of a snap Scotland frost and we had two dogs sleeping between us one of which is a bratty puppy. We kind of made a rod for our backs letting our dogs sleep on our bed but that is another story.
Said partner decides we should shag standing with me leaning over the bed. Sadly the dogs thought I was being battered to death and they cried and threw themselves at David and Linus (puppy) sat on my head and then pissed on our pillows in fear. Both dogs ended up traumatised and hiding under the duvet. It was a catastrophic return to sexual functioning that left me hyperventilating in hysterics and David doubled over braying like a mule with laughter.
One thing that may not be to your liking is this malfunction however it varies for most I'm sure. The DS unlocks lots of doors that are closed to you as a fat person but it isn't a cure all as I'm sure you know. Now once again I need to go strip the bed and do a metric **** tonne of washing due to the leaky dog.
Enjoy this journey.
I was drawn in by your title. I found my sex life hit the skids post DS because I have NO I REPEAT NO SEX DRIVE. Where the **** did that go? I assume it is a combination of radically fat stored e-numbers and toxic avenger type chemicals being systematically released by my blubber stores that keeps me in a near sexual catatonia. Luckily for me I have a truly wonderful guy with very low expectations.
So tonight FINALLY I felt the stirring of amore and decided to get down and funky but the problem was it was minus 2 in our bedroom in the middle of a snap Scotland frost and we had two dogs sleeping between us one of which is a bratty puppy. We kind of made a rod for our backs letting our dogs sleep on our bed but that is another story.
Said partner decides we should shag standing with me leaning over the bed. Sadly the dogs thought I was being battered to death and they cried and threw themselves at David and Linus (puppy) sat on my head and then pissed on our pillows in fear. Both dogs ended up traumatised and hiding under the duvet. It was a catastrophic return to sexual functioning that left me hyperventilating in hysterics and David doubled over braying like a mule with laughter.
One thing that may not be to your liking is this malfunction however it varies for most I'm sure. The DS unlocks lots of doors that are closed to you as a fat person but it isn't a cure all as I'm sure you know. Now once again I need to go strip the bed and do a metric **** tonne of washing due to the leaky dog.
Enjoy this journey.
RIP Mickie aka Happychick. You will be missed deeply.
I love your title too. I have never had a sex drive and have yet to find it, which is a very BIG HUGE dissapointment to my DH.
I love all the things you look forward too, and I cant wait to read all about you reaching each one of these.
Yes do enjoy the journey, for me its been an amazing ride so far.
Toni
I love all the things you look forward too, and I cant wait to read all about you reaching each one of these.
Yes do enjoy the journey, for me its been an amazing ride so far.
Toni
I've very recently fallen in love for the first time in my life. Lucky for me, it's a mutual thing. He knows of my insecurities in that & has seen that for himself. Doesn't change how he feels. He knows I want plastic surgery and has assured me that he supports me in whether I do it or not, he just wants me to be happy bc he loves me.
Some men will care, most will not. The ones who will care, if it is a "deal-breaker", believe me, they possess qualities NOT conducive to a relationship in which you're treated in a decent fashion. I also tend to think it's a subgroup whose focus is so fixated on physical beauty that they are more likely to have a "wondering" eye.
If you end up dating someone for whom it is a "deal-breaker", it will hurt your feelings, but in the end, it is my absolute firm belief, they've just done you a favor in the long-run. **** 'em. They don't deserve you.
I also think it's more likely to meet someone to fall in love with following WLS. Just my opinion. They have to be attracted to you enough to want to get to know you in the first place is how I see it. I'm sure others will disagree with me, but that was my take on it all along and that's exactly what happened.
Some men will care, most will not. The ones who will care, if it is a "deal-breaker", believe me, they possess qualities NOT conducive to a relationship in which you're treated in a decent fashion. I also tend to think it's a subgroup whose focus is so fixated on physical beauty that they are more likely to have a "wondering" eye.
If you end up dating someone for whom it is a "deal-breaker", it will hurt your feelings, but in the end, it is my absolute firm belief, they've just done you a favor in the long-run. **** 'em. They don't deserve you.
I also think it's more likely to meet someone to fall in love with following WLS. Just my opinion. They have to be attracted to you enough to want to get to know you in the first place is how I see it. I'm sure others will disagree with me, but that was my take on it all along and that's exactly what happened.
HW / SW / CW / GW 299 / 287 / 160 / 140 Feb '09 / Mar '09 / Dec '13 /Aug '10
Appendicitis/Bowel Obstruction Surgery 8/21/10
Beat Hodgkin's Lymphoma! 7/15/2011 - 1/26/2012 
Ran Half-Marathon 10/14/2012
First Pregnancy, Due 8/12/14 I LOVE MY DS!!!
Nice post Lisey - very similiar to my thoughts. We would have never met to fall in love if I had not blossomed from the inside out of who I really am.
He loves me, skin and all. He'd like to see me get my legs done eventually but more for my sake - he sees how it slows me down.
He loves me, skin and all. He'd like to see me get my legs done eventually but more for my sake - he sees how it slows me down.
Jill - revision - band to DS 3/10/05 Dr. Baltasar, Spain
440/140/149 hw/cw/gw - 5'5" -300lbs -- bmi 73.2 to 24.8 :) GOAL MET 10/26/10!!.... Even made 140 September 2012. Been ranging 4-6lbs from 144-146 since then. Back to 140 December 2012, hoping to see it again after I feel better and start working out.
I often wonder about the 'sex and skin' thing. I imagine I look like the bride of frankenstein with all the scars from past surgeries. Complete with Frankentitties. From my breast reduction. I'm hoping to find someone who won't judge me for all my 'works'. I guess when they finally come along, I'll know.
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