Love after weightloss

About 10-1/2 months postop I started a relationship with someone (I'm now 19 months' postop).  I was very self-conscious at first...I still am at times, but he loves me and it doesn't seem to deter him from wanting to make love to me.  He's a man--I'm quite certain he'd be even more turned on if I DIDN'T have all this loose hanging skin--lol--but I am what I am.  He's not perfect either...and you know what?  No one is.  He suggests I go to the gym "for me."  LOL...well, I'm sure it's for him too...but he's right--I should go to the gym (and so should he...he doesn't go either! ;)

You're going to be self-conscious.  It bothers me a lot more than it bothers him.  I'll give you an example (a little graphic...sorry).  A few weeks ago he was in a very romantic mood.  He wanted to give me a frontal massage.  He removed my clothes (kept his on).  I was panicking inside a little thinking, "Oh crap!  He can see everything!"  He then proceded to give me the MOST delicious massage ever...lol.  And the whole time my thoughts were alternating between, "Oh ****!  He sees all my saggy skin"  "Oh my gosh!!  This is amazing!!"  "Holy crap he's kissing my scar!"  "Wow!  Yummy!!!"  "Why would he massage my saggy lower stomach???!!!"  "Oh my gosh!!  Yes, yes, yes!"  ROTFLOL

My sex drive is MUCH stronger than it was preop...but I was in a loveless marriage preop and am much happier now.  If a man doesn't want you because of your "battle scars," he can go to Hell...totally not worth losing any sleep over.  You will find someone who will love you and accept you unconditionally.

Hugs to you,

Felicia