I've been given this superpower. Now, can I use it for good instead of evil?

To all you younger "babes" out there:  TAKE A SECOND HONEYMOON, QUICK!!!

You've got to remind yourselves why you got married in the first place.  Get away someplace where you only have each other to occupy your time.  Not golfing, not fishing, not Disneyland, not Mall of America.  I mean a remote cabin in the woods, the honeymoon suite at a hotel for lovers.  Take a can of whipped cream, bottle of champagne, candles, bath bubbles, and lotion.
 
We took a second honeymoon to Mackinac Island, where we had our first honeymoon.  We did it on our 15 year anniversary, and WOW, was I ever pleasantly surprised.  I had actually forgotten exactly what had attracted me to my hunka hunka burning love.  We had both been so busy with raising kids and working that we had forgotten each other. 

And to all those Lounge Lizard****ting on you?  They hit on every single, damned hot woman.  You might think you're something special to him, but you're not.  He's trolling.  Got his boat motor on low, bait in the water, just seeing what bites.  He throws back anything he catches, though.  Don't let one of those slime-balls ruin your good thing.

Sheanie, loved the bit about the lounge lizards.  How true.  I didnt think of it that way, but I'm sure that's so true... plus, I decided this guy was probably totally drunk when he wa****ting on me.

I've just never been considered "hot" before.  Ha ha.  It sure feels nice when someone tells you that, though!

I want to applaud you for posting about something like this so honestly.  I haven't had WLS yet, but I have lost massive amount of weight in the past.  It was strange that I was the same person, but yet the world (and men) saw me as a very different person.  It can be difficult to deal with.

I pass no judgment on you or your actions.  That isn't my place, nor could I ever have enough information to pass judgment.  But I do want to gently caution you. From what you have written, it sounds like you are putting yourself into situations that may be inviting temptation.  Going to bars, drinking, giving a guy you had a crush on your phone number...  I think this is playing with fire.  It is inviting the destruction of your marriage.

I know this advice is very easy to give, and probably very hard to take.  I know I am an outsider to your marriage and your situation, and I am not a moral authority of any sort.  But I want to encourage you to really think about how much you value your marriage.  If you want to honor your marriage and your husband, I think you need to mindfully avoid situations where you are inviting temptation and opportunities to be "inappropriate" with men.   At the very least, avoid these situations until you are more adjusted to the "new you" and more confident in yourself so you aren't quite so needy for the attention.   Avoid drinking in mixed company, don't go to a bar without your husband, don't seek out old crushes, and absolutely don't give out your phone number to any men (even old "friends").  

If you aren't willing to give these things up (at least for now, while you are in a vulnerable state), you may need to really think about your marriage. If you aren't going to take your marriage vows seriously, then it is best to end the marriage now.  Don't do this to your husband (and children if you have them).  

I hope this doesn't sound judgmental.  I sure don't meant it to be that way.  I just wanted to caution you...  if you truly love and respect your husband and you do not want to lose your marriage, then just take great care to ensure that your marriage comes first and that your actions always reflect your love for your husband.

Good luck.  And thank you for posting this.  I think almost anyone who has lost a lot of weight can relate to what you are going through on some level.  I think it's wonderful that you are reflecting on all of this and being open to talking about it.  I think sharing what you are going though is going to help a lot of people here.

Congratuations on your wonderful weight loss success!!

Thank you for the honest response to my thread.  This was a sort of difficult thing to post, but I posted here because I knew I would get honest answers.  Your reply made me sit back and think and take a look at my actions.  You are correct, I am putting MYSELF in situations where this is too easy to have happen.  I thank you so much for the eye opener.   I just can't tell you enough how honest and helpful your post was.  I do value my husband and my family, and can't imagine life without them. 

Aw, you're gonna make me cry.  I'm so glad my post was helpful.  Your marriage and your family is worth fighting to protect. 

I think once you get more comfortable with the new reality (that, yes you are indeed hot) the desire for this kind of attention with diminish.  So, just give yourself some time to adjust... and in the meantime, put your energy and efforts into reconnecting with your family and your husband.  Avoid any situation that may compromise your goal to respect your husband and honor your marriage.

(((HUGS)))

Thanks again for bringing up this very important topic.  I know it's really hard to put something like this "out there."

Well, thank you again.  I mean it.  I memorized these boards before I had my surgery, but NEVER read a thread like this.  I kind of put myself out there posting this, but I hope it helps some newbies see what's to come, both good and bad!  It's not all easy, but this life is well worth getting used to!