im hurting

a 2 year relationship/friendship ended today and i am feeling hurt upset . basically i couldnt stand my ex snoring when we went to bed at night because it kept me awake virtually from night till dawn and i finally expressed my frustration by telling her it was keeping me from sleeping at night and because we were staying in a one bedroom/living room there was nowhere else for me to sleep. so i resorted to taking a bunch of pillows and laid down on the sofa. this gradually upset my ex so much and she said it made her feel bad that i had to resort to sleeping on the sofa. i told her that it was the only way i could cope while she was asleep and snoring very loudly. i guess she couldnt cope with the thought of causing me to lose sleep nite after nite so we starting arguing and eventually she told me to get my stuff ready and leave. i couldnt believe it! and all because i told her that her snoring was keeping me awake plus i couldnt stand her smoking everyday and night and then getting into bed next to me reeking of tobbaco. and she would flick the ash in the bath and leave it there so when i would go in to have a bath it was reeking of stale tobbaco and i had to keep cleaning out the bath. i just couldnt stand it anymore. and then last night she refused to cook so i went to bed absolutely starving. ok i could of made myself a sandwich but she had promised to cook a spagetti bolangnese and then decided not to which upset me and i didnt talk to her for the rest of the evening and when we did talk it turned into a argument. i cried bitterly when she told me to leave and that the relationship was over. i tried to reason with her but it was all in vain. im now back at my own place and still feeling the effects of a blazing row, endless sleepness nights and a night without any dinner and now i have no girlfriend. im sure her excessive weight made her snoring worse and despite me telling her that if i had to sleep on the sofa to get through the night i would do it but she took it as a rejection and started saying i have changed and wince when she tried to kiss me. but that was because i couldnt bear the smell of tobbaco on her breath. so now we have split up and i feel hurt. i know this isnt a topic about diet but im sure some of you out there can relate to what ive been through in the past 24 hours. on the otherside i have lost a few pounds in the last 7 days but i also lost my ex.

Hey there, Just read your post and wanted to say that I'm sorry that you had to go through that situation. Sounds very sad. It's never easy going through a breakup. I've been there b4. Just keep your head up and it will start to feel better eventually. Maybe this is just a phase that won't last long between you two. Stay positive! Treece

hi latrice, thanks for your advice i must say i was worried i would get a load of people writing and saying this is the wrong place to be posting stuff about break ups but hey we all know life is a double edged sword and sometimes we get cut and it hurts. but like you said 'stay positive'! thats exactly what i am doing! i will find miss right....when the time is right lol. hope you are doing ok in your life take care sister and thanks for caring for your fellow black brother in the uk regards trevor

No problem... This is exactly the place where you want to come and air your feelings, to get it off your chest and to get some love and advice. I'm doing okay in my life, just need to lose weight! Once that's done I think I will feel a lot better about life. Anyway, I was reading your profile and I have a friend that suffers from some of the same things that you do. I will give you her profile page address. She would love to make friends with someone who understands what she goes through too. Her name is Wanda. http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/members/profile.php?N=R1156391538 Well, gotta run and I hope that you are feeling a little bit better.. Treece

treece, thanks for caring, i appreciate it. i hope i can be a friend to wanda. thanks again sister all the best to you trevor