IM DONE

i think im going to give up with this quest for weight loss surgery.. My insurance requires you to do a year long thing like take classes every week and exercise everyday, and you have to lose 10% of your body fat as well before approval. Well I can not seem to lose anything and I have been going to the classes now for about 4 months, i walk everyday for as long as i can, i have changed my eating around, and im just not losing.. I dont want another disappointment so im done.. I just can not go through all this for an insurance company to tell me DENIED, AGAIN because of something i have not done right... i know its giving up, but to go through all the testing again and all the bull&*^ i jsut cant ... i was born fat so im thinking i will always be fat. i dont know.. but what else is there for me to do...

Has anyone ran test to see why you can't lose weight? There are conditions such as Cushings Syndome that can be the cause of obesity. I wish you health no matter what your weight. Sarah

Hey there sweetie, sounds like you've been thru it all. I'm sorry to hear it. This is such a struggle and can be devastatingly difficult. I know, I'm still fighting to get the surgery done and I've been doing so since 2002. I'm emotionally exhausted but everytime I see myself in a mirror or watch my son play around a park without me, I remember why I'm doing this. Not to look good but to live a full, long and productive life. Its hard but please don't give up! Let me know if I can do anything to help, [email protected].

Hi Emily, I CERTAINLY understand...I have been in your shoes...and find that it is not a fun place to be...see my profile to see how I had to fight this for 3.5 years!!! I can't believe that it is now my turn in 3 days!!! Someone told me about a year ago when I was at the end of my rope, that my turn will come when it is suppose to...all these obstacles were happening for a reason and I needed tot rust that God knew what he was doing. It was hard to listen to that at the time, but it is WONDERFUL to see it all come through now! I wish you patience and success in this journey. Laurie P Pensacola

You have a long life a head of you. Giving up may feel like a good thing to do; show YOU'RE in charge of your expectations. But there you still are, with the rest of your life. A lot of things change. I've known about 10 people over the years who gave up at least 3 times over the course of 4 or 5 years before having WLS. Some of them moved. Some wound up with new employers. Some wound up with new spouses & new health plans. Some, unfortunately, wound up with worsening comorbidities that necessitated approval. WLS is a choice, I say. That much should be certain, even if some of us have very little control over the "when" part.

I feel your pain. It took me about 2 1/2 years to get approved. I gave up at least 2 times. I would get so exhausted and disappointed I'd have to walk away from my quest for a while. I'd tell myself that "this is not happening for me for a reason and maybe I should except it and go on with my life". Then after some time passed I'd get the strength to try again. Well finally in Feb of this year I had surgery. I've lost about 66 lbs in 4 months and feel wonderful! With all the exercise you are doing you MUST be losing body fat. You may weight the same but with the exercise you are building muscles that are replacing the fat. When you started your exercise program did you get your body fat % measured? If not do so right away. When your year is up you may weight the same but still have lost 10% of your body fat. GOOD LUCK! Janice

hi . i understand where you are right now . over the years i have been there myself . but everytime i was ready to give up something kept me fighting for this surgery because i felt it would make the diffrence between living and watching life go by me as i sit on the side. it was a hard thing to fight for and at times seemed hopeless but i kept trying to figure it out and was blessed to have found a doctor that is wounderful . after more than 4 years and trying to get the surgery in 3 states i went to his meeting and class the last week of oct in 2004 and did all the pre op tests again in nov and was approved the monday after thanksgiving thanks to carey at the doc's office . i will never forget the day he told me not to worry that it will happen when it is suppose to . i had surgery on 1-19-05 . i am almost 5 mths out and have lost over 135 pounds . and to think i almost gave up . dont worry it will happen when it is suppose to ... you just have to have faith . good luck ... if you need to talk or just to vent feel free to e-mail me anytime tina