Soounds good, I will be there. What time?

Ok you failed to mention that one small little detail "he's married" thats ok. But, I guess it is normal persay (I would think) for married men/women to have feelings for another woman/man as long as they are not being acted upon. But if you are getting to the point where you are being considered the "second" anything then there is a cause for concern because you are right you are DEFINATELY better than second best on any account for anything. You definately do deserve better than that. I personally think that jealousy is playing a HUGE role in this right how. He can't "have you" and so he doesn't want others to have you either. Yeah emotionally you are there to be a sounding board but I think deep down he was probably wishing there was more or at the least that his wife could be there emotionally as much as what you are. You are right he does have the best of both worlds. There are just somethings that some people connect better on while others don't. Now if we could just take all the good of the not so perfect person we found and make one person we'd all have it made but since that is not an option, we gotta take what we can get persay. Does that make sense? Just becareful that YOU don't get hurt in all this because jealousy can be an evil thing and can hurt alot of people. Just remain true to yourself and believe that you ARE worth it. You know that poem comes to mind "everyone comes into our life for a reason, season, or a lifetime" or something like that. I personally think that you came into his life at a time when he really needed a friend and person to confide in but now maybe it is time to cut that tie and just say what I have came to do here is done so it is time for me to move on. Yeah it will be hard but you know that he is not available and if he is thinking more along the lines of I can have my cake and eat it too I will do that and what does that do for you? Especially now if he is not going to be verbally supportive to you.... when you were there for him. Doesn't make sense I am sorry. Weather a person believes in the surgery as an option or not I think that a person needs to be supportive especially if you are friends... if you are strangers.... not so much because they will probably say what they gotta say and you will never see them again. I know I am babbling but I guess what I am trying to say is that when a person has alot of negative feedback or support towards someone that is having surgery it alot of fear, jealousy, the unknown and not being totally educated on the subject. Take care of YOU chris because YOU are worth it!! ((hugs))

that's what I was sayin! or tryin to!

Yea go make the offer!! AND THOSE OF US WHO CANT BE THERE... ARE STUCK HERE!

Sure....sounds like fun! Can I sit up on the back and flash people?