Grandparents raising grandchildren

Ann, the legal hassles are well worth it. Where is the father in all this? Speaking from experience, if you are able to adopt the boy it will give him more security in his mind and he will be able to deal with his cir****tance more easily. Our boys have an older half-brother who lives with the maternal grandparents 60 miles from us. He has more emotional problems than these two boys do. His father has refused to relinquish his parental rights so that the maternal grandparents can adopt him but never has even taken the time to visit with or make any contact with the boy and he'll be 16 soon. Good luck on your custody hearing on the 10th! Cathy

Hello Cathy, I have a grandaughter that lives with me an her papaw we have had her since she was 10months old she was diagnosed with AML Leukemia she is 14 yrs old now.Its has been a long hard battle,She still in remission thank goodness but with all her chemo and radition she has alot of special needs.I have been overweight for as long as I can remember an Now my health is not great,So I started the journey last Nov-05 an I will get in shape,Cause I plan to stay around and do things with her an go places with our Angel. I think there is alot of grandparents rising grandchildern these day.What would they do without Us. Kathy

I just signed on to this site and am just learning how to work it! My husband and I have been raising 2 of my grandsons for 10 years now. They are now 16 and 17 and life is more hectic than I thought it would be. One of the boys is involved in hs marching band and orchestra, the other is a snowboarder and also into mountain biking and skateboarding. They have been a real blessing in our lives. We also have 7 other grandsons. They are all active and I am really lucky that they want me involved in their lives. Unfortunately, due to my excess weight, there is alot of stuff I can't do with them that I really want to. I am now considering WLS as my last hope to get healthy.

My husband and I have been raising 2 of our grandsons for 10 years. Now that they are in high school, our lives are even more hectic. Fortunately, all of our children were grown and living on their own when we were blessed with these 2 boys. We also have 7 other grandsons. I have tried everything to lose weight and nothing works long-term. Have finally realized I am morbidly obese and nothing short of WLS is going to keep me going! Have you had WLS?

I know you posted this a long time ago. I'm so glad I found this forum today & to know I'm not the only one rasing my grandkids. My daughter (20 yrs) has an 19th month old & a 2 mth old. She lives with us, due to BFs not being such good men after all (a whole nother story). She can barely take care of herself so it takes me & my DH to assist. She tries, she really does, but at this young age there are times when she's at a loss as to what to do. And trying to raise these 2 boys by herself is a task almost too much to bear. I am blesssed to have had my surgery, lost 199 lbs & can chase the oldest around. It won't be long b4 I'm chasing two of them & I'm grateful that I can. I never thought I'd be raising kids at this age (49)! The Lord blessed me with awesome grandkids AND I get to see more of them that most grand parents. laugh.. altho folks say "oh you can spoil him & send him home" my response is not yet, b/c he only goes down the hall. But when he actually goes to his own home watch out! grin

I had my surgery in August, 2005, and after 7 1/2 months, have lost 100 pounds!! I can't believ how much better I feel!! Good thing because I am raising my 3 grandchildren-aged 4, 2, and 6 months!! Yes, it is a trip, and the legal hassles are about to intensify, as the parents' rights are being terminated and we will be moving toward adoption. I had an incisional hernia repaired a few weeks ago and cannot lift the kids-what a challenge!!

I am raising my granddaughter. She is six now, and I have had her since she was 15 months old. This has presented particular challenges because I am divorced and have no family members nearby to help me with her. I do have custody of her. She is one of the reasons why I am having this surgery. I hope to be given a surgery date soon. Leslie

My husband and I are raising our two grandsons (9 & 6) - have been most of their lives - and one of the main reason for my DS weight lose surgery was so that I could keep up with the boys and have a healthier life. Surgery was on Aug 9, 2010 and it has all been worth it!! -- the oldest grandson sat down next to me the other morning, leaned over and quietly said "Grandma, do you know that your are getting smaller?" !!!! Yes !!!!