Ain't married life grand!!!!

I am not sure how long this board has been here. But seeings how I am the first to post on it. I hope it hasn't been long. I just want to take a min. to let the world know how much I am thankful to God for giving me the wonderful man I call my Husband. I love you huney!!! With that said, I am sure like every other married woman in America there are times I want to just wack him with something. Is there anyone out there that is going through this roller coaster ride with thier husband re: this surgery? One min. it is the greatest thing...the next he is trying to detour from it. I am not sure if he is just scared or if he is confused. I look forward to the responses this one will bring. Thxs, and God Bless!

Are you the one who is having surgery, or your husband? I had my surgery June 25, 2003. My husband was scared to death for me. He was sure I was going to die. In fact, that was his first question to the doctor! Once he was assured that I would live, he warmed up to the idea pretty quick. He wanted to tell everyone, but I didn't want anyone to know. Now that it's been so long, and the weight loss is definitely noticable (almost 100 pounds), he brags about it to people. One thing though, he thinks I'm not eating enough. He tells me I need to finish my plate, because I haven't eaten enough. Maybe he thinks I'm starving my self, who knows! I tell him that I can only eat until I'm full, and that is it, but he says it weird to see me not eat everything. My husband has been very good about my surgery, until it's time to go shopping! His only real complaint thus far is, he says I've lost my boobs! My husband is a good man. I'm lucky to have him. Tonya

I'm also married to a wonderful man, he is adorable, dependable, obedient, and very trainable...wait that sounds like a puppy. Seriously, I married my high school sweetheart, and couldn't ask for a more caring and loving man. BUT, why do they have these issues with our surgurys? He is excited one minute, but then there is this other side, he doesn't say anything, but the look kind of tells me the hamster is running on the wheel again and he's thinking, but not sharing. Maybe I should try the "wacking" technique. I wonder if the thought of us changing and becoming different looking, makes them think we will move on to better places without them. It seems like an issue that they are confused about. On one hand we will be thinner which equals sexy in today's society and they like that idea. But then something else confuses them. What is it???? If anyone can shed some light on the matter it would be appreciated. Thanks and God Bless!

Hi all! I will have been married 8 years on Feb 26. And on boy has it been interesting. When I first met my soon to be husband I looked at him and honestly thought he wasn't my type, 2 weeks later he was telling me he loved me, to which I responded "no you don't, you don't even know me!" Well just goes to show what I knew. Now I wouldn't trade him for the world! He is so worried about me having this surgery he also seems to think that I'm going to die. Every time I tell him that I called the ins co again to check on my appeal status he says he hopes it doesn't get approved. But other days he's all for it saying how great it will be when I'm thinner because we'll be able to do more active activities, like going dancing, for walks and bike riding (he's very thin 145lbs @5'6"). Then sometimes he'll say what I think is his funniest comment: "but when you are thin I'm going to miss your big a$$ and I love your big a$$" (and no, he's not being mean). I've taken him to seminars and given him lots of information on WLS, but he's still not convinced. He says he doesn't know what he'd do if something happened to me. I've told him that I believe God is in control and your destiny isn't something that can be changed, so whatever happens was meant to happen, he agrees but he still doesn't like the idea. Any other suggestions that may help ease his mind? Sorry so long it's just when I talk about my husband I tend to gush, because he's everything to me. And yeah, I also want to whack him sometimes too. Take Care Estela

What a great hubby you have! I have been married for just over 2 years. My husband is a Naval Aviator, but doesn't have that "Top Gun" ego, thank God! He is the sweetest, most loving, compassionate man I have ever known. I married late in life and I am so gald I waited for my true love. He is my best friend! Yes, married life is grand!

My husband is so awesome. He was excited and worried for me. He has been my biggest spporter and my rock. I tell him my worries and aggrivations with this surgery. We talk it out and I always feel better about it. We have been together for 13 yrs this June and married for 9 yrs this August. I look forward to many more years with him and being thin. Also looking forward to better sex. LOL Who isn't? At least I'm honest, right? LOL

My husband is being so great about this. He is wonderful. But yes in real life, I occasionally want to whack him. He has been 110% supportive of me in this, even when everyone else wasn't. His only prob is the dying thing again , but ya know that's my only problem with it too!! The closer it gets, the less excited he seems. I, on the other hand, am so excited that I can't sit still. I need a time machine so I can hurry up and get there!!

Yup yup, married life is grand! This is the second time around for me, and I know I found a winner this time. He's 110% with me on my decision for the surgery. He tells me he knows this is the best thing for me, hes afraid of me dying without it. When I went to the RN and nutitionist, he asked more questions than me. He thinks I am sexy just the way I am, but is concerned about my health. To think I wasted 18 with my X! Ya live n learn I guess. Hugs n kisses xo Chrissie xo