My husband didnt want me to have it either and was resistant to me having it for years.............I do respect my man.............but he respects me and my choices..........He is my biggest fan now

Hi Valena ! ! ! I just stumbled upon it myself ! I happened to look to the left of my screen and saw all these boards I had never seen before. Hopefully this board will liven up ! ~~Rona

What you've all said is sooooo true. My angel and her husband sat us both down to talk about some of the strain that WLS can put on a marriage about 8 months before my surgery. My hubby and I have been really open and honest w/ each other about what concerns we may have in the relationship department including sexual concerns. This has helped. Now that I'm 4 weeks out and very clearly losing weight and inches he has started to question things....mostly in a teasing way. I had to tell him that the comments about "my boyfriends" needed to stop for a little while. He tells me he loves me a lot more than he used to and he calls to check on me throughout the day. It's nice to have the extra attention but I know I need to give some of that back too. Make a conscious effort to be open w/ each other, say "I love you" a lot and if you need to be the aggressor for a while...your a new you on the outside so maybe it will be fun to change some of your inside habits too...LOL Good luck!!

OK, I know the birth control debate rages here and on the SBAAWLS board. After having been on the pill since 1992, I switched over to Nuvaring over the weekend. I can't shout it loud enough, but I LOVE IT!!!!! It's easy to insert, I couldn't feel it after the first hour or two. I definitely couldn't feel it during sex nor could my husband. I love not having to take a pill every day. Anyway, we'll see if I'm still so in love with the ring when my first cycle comes around, but so far, it's a winner! Blessings, Jennifer 253 / 163 / 137

Hi all, I am new to the board and thought i would introduce myself. I have been married 25 years to a wonderful man who I love greatly. We will be re-newing our wedding vows on the beach in Fl to celebrate our next 25 years together. We will also be celebrating the new healthier me. I had surgery April 26, 2006 which I am sure you know by the info on the top of this post. I am doing great feeling great and very happy this is the choice I made. It took me 4 years of trying other ways to decide to do this so both my husband and I were really ready when the time came for the surgery. He has been very supportive the whole way. I have however noticed some slight changes in him since my focus as shifted from being ill to being healthy. I just don't think he knows what this means yet or totally trust that it is different this time. He says he is feeling lost and a little like he can't get his barings. I can relate I feel a little like I walked into a knew world myself. We do talk alot about what is going on in our lives and in our thoughts. We also both have people outside our relationship we can turn to for support. He has his friends and I have mine which is also helpful as long as we also talk with one another. Anyway, I look forward to getting to know you all. Terrie 366/316/ goal 165