YES, he does bring these items home but there is no argument. He very frequently will complain to me about his weight and wanting to get off the blood pressure medication that he's had to take since his weight gain. He is not obese in any way but he could use to lose that 15 or 20 pounds and the doctor has told him that he would likely not need medication if he did so. His mom will frequently express her concern for his health and at the same time bake him a cake. The issue is his mother's baking more than him eating as his father is diabetic and she bakes for him as well. We've actually come to a decision that he will accept his mother's goodies "to take home". When he gets them to the house if he wants one piece or taste he'll take it and then he's going to throw the rest away. He's done that once already since my original post and it has worked well. She thinks he's eating the fruits of her labor and he's not gaining the weight from it. As far as the cooking goes...I know I will gladly accept someone taking the time to make him plate while I'm on the liquids. However, it's 8 weeks until my surgery and my mother-in-law wants to start cooking for my husband now.

I actually have the Merina IUD. IT IS WONDERFUL!!!! I am pre-op, but I have had it in since shortly after I had my son. (BC pills can interfere with breast feeding) I highly recommend an IUD. There are two types, coper and plastic. The coper is 10 years, the plastic is 5. I don't have to worry about birth control again until Dec 08. You may hear horror stories about IUD's because they were different back in the 70's. They are made from different materials now. I have had mine in for a few years now and not a single problem. But things to note, the plastic one usually easies periods (it out right stops it in 20% of women... I am in that 20%). The copper can make periods a little more crampy (something I did not want because I used to have HORRIBLE periods). I would recommend at least asking your OBGYN about it. I know I have no regrets about it. Krista

actually going to her home is not by choice but necessity as he has a dog housed there which he feeds and cares for daily. I do agree that he needs to stand up for himself. Thanks

Well I am married to a wonderful man who just happens to be the baby of his family. He was pretty spoiled most of his life and his mother still makes it part of her day to be sure that he is always well taken care of. He sees her every day after work and she has begun to feed him like he'll never eat again. I haven't even had surgery yet and she's already using the fact that I won't be eating much after surgery as the excuse to bake him all kinds of goodies. How do I convey to her that its nice of her to do so but that he's not happy with all these snacks? He tries to tell her no b/c he doesn't want to gain weight(he'd actually like to lose about 20lbs) but she just continues to bake all these goodies. Since I haven't had the surgery its hard for me to stay away from them as well which just leads to an argument with my husband when he comes in the door. I have 8 weeks until surgery and she asked me yesterday if she should start preparing meals for him while I recover. I've tried to explain that I will still be able to eat some things and that I will cook(I love to cook!!!). Her response was "are you sure my boy is gonna be fed?" Any advice on how to approach her w/o hurting her feelings. My hubby just can't say no.

Thank you so much for your quick response. It is similar to what my doctor has told me but my surgeon just keeps pushing the use of another contraceptive. So basically the bone density issue is more risky after surgery? It is a risk to me now. My husband and I don't have any children at this point and may consider it after I am at a healthier weight and have maintained a heathier lifestyle so a vasectomy is out of the question. I'm sure your words of wisdom will help put him at ease. Thanks so much