3 THINGS FOR WEDNESDAY

Julie -

I'm sorry I brought you to tears!!  You're a WONDERFUL daughter.  I know your heart must be breaking, but I hope you gain some comfort knowing that you are doing all that you're able for your Mom.

I don't know how to begin to tell you how to face reality and wish I could give you some peace.

The women on this board have become my extended family and we'll happily include you in that.

Hugs and BE CAREFUL, sweetie!!

Tia

Wow what a moving post I have just been dealing with the big C with my mom. She is 76 and has lung cancer too. I have been so focused on her I forgot me. I find it so hard since she has dementia as well. I long for the mother daughter luches, shopping sprees and good conversations. My mom has always loved Ocean City and though we had little money growing up we always went there if just for a day. I can taste the fries right now. She came to me right after Xmas and said she wanted all of us to go to OC for New Years. Even though times were tight we went for a week and she loved it. I knew she was really cofused when I drove her home and she said thanks for taking me to the beach. I said no problem we will go again this summer. Then she turned and said that was so nice for you to have the doctor meet us at the hotel. I just looked at her and then she said it was so nice to have a coloncscopy at the basement of the hotel. I did not argue with her and told her its ok. My mom never drove because my dad said women who wear glasses cant drive. So she listened. I remember walking  and riding buses everwhere even to buy groceries. She had a birthday last week and now she is in diapers and has trouble moving her bowels at times we have to remove her waste for her. Wow do I long for the past...This post bought me to tears and I just couldnt hold it in any longer. Sorry to be so graphic but I want all of you to love your moms as if today was the last day since it can be taken away so quickly. This came on so fast with my mom. We did not expect all of this so soon..Happy Bday to your mom. Enjoy every moment...

                                                                            Julie

Sorry I went back and  redid the post. I had so many spelling errors. It says the same  thing but I hope I spelled it better...Sorry....


                                                                                                      Julie

Tia,

I am so happy you have your mom what a beautiful post.  I am a motherless daughter.  I lost my mom over 13 years ago to lung cancer.   May you and your mom celebrate many more wonderful birthdays together.

Nessa -

As the girls on here will tell you, I will HAPPILY share Mom with you.  She has more than enough love to go around!!

Hugs,

Tia

What a wonderful post! 

Today, I'm grateful for:

1.  My mom!  She's my best friend and I love spending time with her.  Tonight we are travelling to Glen Burnie together for the Dr's support group meeting.

2.  My son!  He's my sunshine.  He helps me control my portion sizes by eating all (and I mean all!) my leftovers!

3.  My husband!  I could not have had the surgery without his support.  He walked two miles with me the day after my surgery when I know his thin self hates exercise!  :)

Jenn

Aww, thanks, Jenn!!!

You'll find that your wls road will be much smoother since you have such wonderful support.  I used to speak at information seminars for my surgeon, and often took Mom, introducing her as, "my built-in support group."  Very true words!!!

Give your son and hubby a kiss for helping you out!

Hugs,

Tia

My mom had her surgery on 10/7.  It's really nice that she knows how I'm feeling.  I was a bit jealous that she got her surgery first, but her insurance company didn't make her wait like mine did!  LOL

What a wonderful post.  It makes me love her and I don't even know her.  I also have a special relationship with my mother who turns 63 this year.  It is year 16 since her cerebral anurysm and her inability to "speak" and the loss of use of her right limbs.  I understand what you went through and the time that you needed to take with her when she was unable to take care of herself.  I was 27 when my mother fell ill.  I went through the nights, weeks, months of time off and sleeping in hopsital floors.  I also signed a do not resuscitate order for her when she contracted pneumonia in the hospital and I was told that she would not live through it.  These were the hardest times of my life, but I knew that she had taken care of me for the first 27 years of my life so now it was my time to step up to the plate.  Now, 17 years later she is no longer the "mother" I knew growing up, but still a joy in my life and although our roles have been reversed in life, I still remember the wonderful values that she gave me and the traditions growing up and try to fill her huge shoes to make her life a happy one as she has always made mine. 
So happy birthday to you Tia's Mom and to all the mothers out there that made the lives of their little girls ones to remember and molded such wonderful, powerful, strong women, THANK YOU.