today i question...

Nessa I feel your pain. I am trying this darn diet so hard and I am working it. My accupuncurist told me yesterday Julie you are so strong but I dont feel it. I feel weak and beat by this weight. I lost 100lbs 7 years ago and then gained it back plus more. I am now 310 I cant believe I got to this point. I am so ashamed. I went to a buffet last weekend in PA and I overheard a woman with 3 other woman say as I walked by do you think she needs anything else to eat. It hurt so bad as it was my 1st trip to the salad bar and thats all I ate. I am not lazy and I dont think you are either I just dont feel motivated. I have 2 gym memberships and dont go because I am to darn embarassed...Dont be discontent we are always so hard on ourselves..                    Group Hug to You Nessa....

I'm reading the Beck Diet Solution book right now.  She says that we aren't motivated to go to the gym because we don't see the change quick enough.  That we want instant gratification.  (Not my ideas--- hers!)  (So-   No shooting the messenger!) 

are you reading the green book or the pink book.

Beck is a very wise woman.  Her father is Aaron Beck the father of Cognitve Therapy. 

I tried Beck last year too.... note how well that worked

hahaha.

Well, I am combining it with RNY.  :)  So, I've heard that it HAS to work for me at this point!  I just thought it seemed an interesting read since I have a clinical Psych background.

I cannot tolerate people like that. I have so much compassion for overweight people because I know that it is not because they are lazy and unmotivated. I have told you before I really think that we cannot help it. If we could do it....would we have put ourselves through all this torment. I have even said before that I wanted this more than anything I ever wanted in my life but still could not do it.  Just say a prayer for someone as ignorant as that....they just don't have a clue.

You are a beautiful person so tell yourself that every morning you look in that bathroom mirror.

((( Julie )))

I am SO sorry you had to overhear this.  Not surprised, though.  People are cruel.

However, had *I* heard that - either to me or to you, she'd have been wearing that salad!!!!  WTH gives people the right to say ANYTHING about anyone else???!!!! 

Don't worry, we've got your back!!!

Hugs,

Tia

Yea Tia I felt like busting her in her mouth but I just look at the source and realized she was a dirty B***H. Sorry.. I just laughed when I saw her come back with 4 pieces of pie on her plate and then go back for cake. May her Blood sugar  go to a zillion... God will deal with her. I always tell my kids God doesnt like evil and all the dirt you do will be thrown in your face later..

                                                                                     Julie

And in the meantime, there's always Tia, willing to slap someone for a friend!!!!  And in some cases, just for the sheer enjoyment of it!!! 

It's definitely a personal choice.  But, I think you answered your own question when you said that you couldn't keep the weight off.  :)

We all have discontent days, but all your posts I've read it really seems like your ready.  But, you can go through the calendar and see how many days you think you are ready for the surgery and compare it to the days that you don't think it's right for you.  :)

Jenn

I was really embarrassed when I took my 400+ pound self to the gym at first. However, I was lucky to find a gym that was full of real people trying to make themselves healthier. It is not about looks. As a struggled and then became more and more successful, I can't tell you how many people came up to me to encourage me, appaaud my efforts, and congratulate me. Many of these are complete strangers. I have also made friendships there. I met Darla there before becoming active on this board.