I want to kill my husband's boss

she had WLS around 2001 (not sure exactly when I met her she was at her golden skinny stage) and DVR was her surgeon.

she is NOT the best example of following the rules and she tells him 


"after surgery a good breakfast is half a bagel and some cream cheese"

I asked him what protein was there and he got mad at me. I tried to tell him that a  bagel is NOT a good choice  but NO.... what the hell could I know...


oy ok fine. live and learn.  

Oh Nessa, I am really worried for your husband. First, he keeps coming up with obstacles left and right, making me think he is not really ready. Second, he is getting a lot of not so great info. Then again, he could go through with the surgery, try a bagel early on, have it get stuck and learn a very painful lesson. Oy is right!

Debbie i really think he's going to have to learn for himself.   He loves his boss... he knows that her drinking is not a good thing esp after WLS but her food choices are bad too... 

oh well he's going to have to learn for himself.   for me the THOUGHT of a bagel after surgery scares me. I know how they lay in my huge stomach now... can't even imagine how it will lay in my pouch.  OMG even a bite would be like lead...

I think it will be lesson learned for him.  Plus he has to realize she is 8 years out...  Hopefully she is having protein coffee or something along with that bagel!!

Has she gained weight back?  Or her hair falling out?  If not, I would say she is still working the program, just telling him what she thinks he wants to hear! 

My grandmother has started getting horror stories about what I am in for from a cousin who was VERY supportive of my decision - until after the fact.  She went from telling everyone how easy it was for her to now complaining about everything she has to do and telling my Grandma how hard it is now (3 years post op)

I think everyone deals with the fact someone else may be more successful than they are in different ways.  Just MHO...

she has gained back a good bit of weight. even after full body PS.....
her hair is so thin i can see her scalp (and she dyes it black and wears it long so it's obvious)

Point that out to him!!!   Or find a picture of her at her prime, and let him see what time and bad habits can do!!

Nessa sorry that sound not so good. I hope your hubby will listen to you... If not he will have a hard lesson to learn.... I think maybe if he talked to a good nut they will be able to help him too.... Good luck you know men are very hard headed.....They talked about bagels and pasta at the meeting the other night.. They said it lays in your pouch and can even make your pouch stretch..

                                                                                                                Julie

Half a bagel and cream cheese tastes so good some days ... but no protein and I do this ater 1.5 years out from surgery. The first year, it was so hard to get protein in at meals that I was uber careful. Now, I just have to keep track of the protein and make sure to take my supplement at the end of the day if I slacked a bit.

Nessa, you should go ahead and get a date for your surgery. Your husband does NOT seem ready or willing. And, it would be a shame for you to keep putting yours off when you are ready and willing. We'll talk more at lunch sweety.