Grieving and Binging

Last Thursday night a friend was killed in a car accident, ever since I have been on a binge. Mike was a trained chef and we hung out together for New Years Eve. I remember he was asking about my upcoming surgery and commenting about how great I was going to look this summer He made these awesome cupcakes filled with chocolate Moose and gave me some to take home. Well being the good pre-op that I am, they went straight into the freezer. When I learned of his death, the cupcakes came out and are gone! Yeah I'm in a funk and moping around the house grazing. His memorial service is Tuesday and I think once I get thru that I'll be ok. The worst is that Dr. Aranow wanted me to loose 10 pounds and I've lost 12 so far and will have my final visit and sign off by the nutritionist next monday the 21st. I can't blow it now, I've come to far. All I have left to do is for the nutritionist to sign off on the 21st, stress test on the 24th and 2 more support group meetings at Middlesex, one of which is tomorrow and thats it!  Since I work for the state, approval is a given.Time to close my eyes, stop thinking about death and concentrate on living and getting back on track.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.  I know there's not alot that I can say to make you feel any better, but try to remember that your friend would like for you to go foward and do what's best for you.  Lean on other friends and family (if available) for support and remember we're all here for you. Best of luck to you...

When I first read your post, I was at a loss for words.  I have a cousin who was killed in a car accident last year and a sudden death is hard to accept.  You do have to grieve and you probably won't feel any better until after his service. So, we hear you reaching out for help.  Know that the men here are praying for you and for each other.  Just look at the various ministers who post here regularly.  They don't prostletize but they do put forth positive messages for all of us.  You know what you have to do and you sound like you are already taking steps to recover from your indulgence. Stop thinking about death but remember your friendship.  Share those good thoughts with others at the memorial service.

Rich, Sorry to hear about your loss. Take your time to grieve, and remember Mike. It will need as much time as it needs…. Getting busy Living, is one of the surest ways to honor those who have passed. Best Wishes- Dx

Rich, Sorry for your loss, brother.  I want to offer you something.  The last line of your post says, "Time to close my eyes..."  I think you might consider doing the opposite and open your eyes to your available support!  What is it like for you to read all of the support on this board?  Where else can you turn and tell your story?  Does your hospital offer support groups you can attend?  Have you considered OA?   There's a lovely little saying, "Grief shared is halved, joy shared is doubled." I'm sure you'll persevere and surgery is right around the corner! CB

Mike was excited for you when he learned of your upcoming sugery. Honor his memory with a new resolve to be successful in your journey.