Pre-Op Frustrations and failures
Hey guys I will try to be as brief as possible. After the past two days I am wondering if I am going to be able to do this and I would like to know if this is a problem others have had. I need to know if I am a lost cause. I do not want to blow this great opportunity I have but I have not been successful in changing my eating habits.
I am scheduled for surgery on 9/22/08. On 9/8/08 I am supposed to go on a 1200 cal/day diet. It all laid out very nicely for me. Two days before surgery I go on an all liquid diet.
Well, I was of the mindset to eat anything and everything until I go on the 1200 calorie diet - and I was doing this. My wife asks me why and I tell her I am saying goodbye to all my food friends. After talking with her I realize this is not the smartest of moves and decide to put myself on a 2000 cal/day diet with daily exercise.
I started the diet this past Sunday and fell apart when I went out to dinner. I did well on Monday and even exercised. I started well on Tuesday and then fell apart and ate enough food to make Michael Phelps go Whoa - I couldn't eat that much. Today was the same.
My concern is this...am I going to be able to do this? I can't maintain enough will power to make it through a 2000 cal/day diet, so how will I make a 1200 cal diet work? How am I going to make this work after surgery.
I know when my binge times are and I am aware of it but I don't stop. I am really worried about this. Sorry so long.
I am scheduled for surgery on 9/22/08. On 9/8/08 I am supposed to go on a 1200 cal/day diet. It all laid out very nicely for me. Two days before surgery I go on an all liquid diet.
Well, I was of the mindset to eat anything and everything until I go on the 1200 calorie diet - and I was doing this. My wife asks me why and I tell her I am saying goodbye to all my food friends. After talking with her I realize this is not the smartest of moves and decide to put myself on a 2000 cal/day diet with daily exercise.
I started the diet this past Sunday and fell apart when I went out to dinner. I did well on Monday and even exercised. I started well on Tuesday and then fell apart and ate enough food to make Michael Phelps go Whoa - I couldn't eat that much. Today was the same.
My concern is this...am I going to be able to do this? I can't maintain enough will power to make it through a 2000 cal/day diet, so how will I make a 1200 cal diet work? How am I going to make this work after surgery.
I know when my binge times are and I am aware of it but I don't stop. I am really worried about this. Sorry so long.
You can do this. None of us got to the point where we opted for WLS because we had good will power. It is harderthan hell to break the cycle, but you can do it if you want it bad enough.
I went on a liquid diet for two months prior to surgery and lost over 50 pounds. I hated every minute of it, but it sure made things go better when surgery date arrived. It also made the small meals post-surgery feel like a treat. You may not want to go to this extreme, but it is effective in breaking the food addictions we all have or had.
There is no easy way to do this, so just make up your mind to take it one day at a time and when you feel like you want to go back and eat half a cow, get yourself busy doing something to take your mind off of it. No need to say goodbye to your old "food friends". These are the "friends" who got you where you are today. Try to focus on low-fat high protein foods when you eat and you can make it. I found the pre-op diet much more difficult than the post-op diet, but both take a lot of effort.
As for the going out for dinner, you may want to simply avoid that until after you get yourself better acclimated to the new food levels - its just too tempting for a while. After some time it isn't such a problem. No magic solutions here, but just honest advice.
Good luck on your journey. Its worth all the effort required. It will change your life in a fantastic way and the good stuff gained is way better than the food foregone.
Hope this helps and best wishes for a successful journey.
I went on a liquid diet for two months prior to surgery and lost over 50 pounds. I hated every minute of it, but it sure made things go better when surgery date arrived. It also made the small meals post-surgery feel like a treat. You may not want to go to this extreme, but it is effective in breaking the food addictions we all have or had.
There is no easy way to do this, so just make up your mind to take it one day at a time and when you feel like you want to go back and eat half a cow, get yourself busy doing something to take your mind off of it. No need to say goodbye to your old "food friends". These are the "friends" who got you where you are today. Try to focus on low-fat high protein foods when you eat and you can make it. I found the pre-op diet much more difficult than the post-op diet, but both take a lot of effort.
As for the going out for dinner, you may want to simply avoid that until after you get yourself better acclimated to the new food levels - its just too tempting for a while. After some time it isn't such a problem. No magic solutions here, but just honest advice.
Good luck on your journey. Its worth all the effort required. It will change your life in a fantastic way and the good stuff gained is way better than the food foregone.
Hope this helps and best wishes for a successful journey.
Steve
First of all there is no need to apologize about a long post. Second of all this is a journey not a race and nobody ever does it perfectly. I am living proof that things can go wrong but you go one day and sometimes one meal at a time.
The biggest problem I have and I kinda see it coming out in you is you want to deal in absolutes. It has to be all this way or I have failed. You are setting yourself up. Relax and take one day. You did good.
Afteer the surgery there will be days you won't even feel like eating. You will exercise a little bit, masybe a little bit more. Each day can build but it can be done. It doesn;t have to be perfect, it just has to be.
So relax and cut yourself some slack before I pry my fat ass off my chair and come over slap some sense into you (in a brotherly fashion of course)
The biggest problem I have and I kinda see it coming out in you is you want to deal in absolutes. It has to be all this way or I have failed. You are setting yourself up. Relax and take one day. You did good.
Afteer the surgery there will be days you won't even feel like eating. You will exercise a little bit, masybe a little bit more. Each day can build but it can be done. It doesn;t have to be perfect, it just has to be.
So relax and cut yourself some slack before I pry my fat ass off my chair and come over slap some sense into you (in a brotherly fashion of course)
Man you can do this. I tell ya after the surgery your not even hungry at all. But remember that the surgery is just a tool (an awesome one at that). It will be hard to change your eating habits but you CAN do it. So tomarrow get back on track and get ready for the ride of your life. Good luck to ya man and remember were all pulling for ya
Hey Clapton,
First of all, you've got a wise wife. Secondly, you ain't no different than any of us here in that the reason we had WLS was because we couldn't control our eating PERIOD.
I lost 50 pounds prior to WLS but I can assure you I would have gained it back X 2 if I didn't have WLS. The weight loss was no different that the dozens of diets I had gone on before. Lose the weight temporarily then gain it all back and then some.
After WLS, everything was different because I couldn't eat the volume of food I had eaten before nor could I eat the crap I had eaten before. Two clubs to my frikken noggin so to speak. On the other hand, I knew these clubs were temporary so I had a year to get my eating and exercise act together. The WLS helped me establish these new habits.
So, don't beat yourself up now before you've had WLS. You're going to war but now you have a big cannon helping you out. Once you enjoy the assistance of WLS in "conquering the eating beast", you'll start feeling you're winning the battle. With each win (FART), you'll gain even more confidence.
Boner
First of all, you've got a wise wife. Secondly, you ain't no different than any of us here in that the reason we had WLS was because we couldn't control our eating PERIOD.
I lost 50 pounds prior to WLS but I can assure you I would have gained it back X 2 if I didn't have WLS. The weight loss was no different that the dozens of diets I had gone on before. Lose the weight temporarily then gain it all back and then some.
After WLS, everything was different because I couldn't eat the volume of food I had eaten before nor could I eat the crap I had eaten before. Two clubs to my frikken noggin so to speak. On the other hand, I knew these clubs were temporary so I had a year to get my eating and exercise act together. The WLS helped me establish these new habits.
So, don't beat yourself up now before you've had WLS. You're going to war but now you have a big cannon helping you out. Once you enjoy the assistance of WLS in "conquering the eating beast", you'll start feeling you're winning the battle. With each win (FART), you'll gain even more confidence.
Boner
Clapton
I don't think anyone would be normal if they did't question such a voluntary life changing event its almost like spending the rest of your life with one woman...... Ugh......I guess you've done that as most of us have.
The advantage to this is it will help you.Bwa..Ha...Ha.!
Just quit your whimpering like I do and chin up (both of them****il we meet on the other side of weight loss, and wonder why we ever question having WLS.
Good luck with the diet and sure you can do it, like me I am sure you have had years of practice.
I know about the only thing I am better at than looosing weight is putting it on.
I am in the same stage you are in I try to concentrate on dieting and after a few days BLAM..........
I forget what I'm doing and eat a dozen white castles or some such.
I quit drinking 26 years ago thanksgiving and I quit smoking the sunday after easter this year.
So What is giving up food? The last vice most of us still have.
ONE STEP TO RECOVERY.
Indianasteve
I don't think anyone would be normal if they did't question such a voluntary life changing event its almost like spending the rest of your life with one woman...... Ugh......I guess you've done that as most of us have.
The advantage to this is it will help you.Bwa..Ha...Ha.!
Just quit your whimpering like I do and chin up (both of them****il we meet on the other side of weight loss, and wonder why we ever question having WLS.
Good luck with the diet and sure you can do it, like me I am sure you have had years of practice.
I know about the only thing I am better at than looosing weight is putting it on.
I am in the same stage you are in I try to concentrate on dieting and after a few days BLAM..........
I forget what I'm doing and eat a dozen white castles or some such.
I quit drinking 26 years ago thanksgiving and I quit smoking the sunday after easter this year.
So What is giving up food? The last vice most of us still have.
ONE STEP TO RECOVERY.
Indianasteve
I fully understand. I've been "supposedly" on the 2000 calorie diet for 5 months, one more to go. I've failed more times than I can count, I'm still losing some (I hope). For me, I take it as confirmation that I need the external control.
We've spent years learning, very deeply, to do it the "wrong" way. Now we need to take time to get it "right."
We've spent years learning, very deeply, to do it the "wrong" way. Now we need to take time to get it "right."
Port repaired 6/16/2010 weight that day 270
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