Marriage Failure's Post WLS

I can speak for three  marriages. When I was huge I married another huge woman mainly because I got ditched by my first little skinny wife when I shot up to 240 pounds and im sure she say me as ol fatso. My second wife however got almost to the same weight as I was and honestly I was over 300 at the time and an emotional wreck. I know now I married her mainly because I was lonesome as heck and she seemed safe at the time. I became an object for emotional abuse after almost a decade I ditched her cause one of us had to go. So now a year later my third wife and I got together and it was magic. There were not many constraints even though I was much thinner at the time and she was not I soon caught up with her and passed her by quickly. She introduced me to WLS about two years ago and now she is about ten sizes smaller. I on the other hand was a little slow on the uptake and gained more wieght but we still stuck it out and made the best of it. I loved her when she was thick and think and she back. Now I am five weeks out and she encourages me to keep up the good work since I had WLS. Not all marriages are made for perfection but it helps to bend a bit and be open to things your partner does. I know of one woman whose husband could not stand the fact that she lost all this weight and divorced her most likely from being insecure himself. I suppose its hard to adjust to divorce in any fashion but having walked that trail a couple of times it better prepared me for what I really need in a companion as well. My only advice and its only worth two cents is be yourself and when the person comes in and can handle you for who you are give them some serious consideration it may be just the ticket you are looking for.

Thanks for the feedback guys, anybody else got a tale to tell?

I am very lucky, my wife had her surger about 3 weeks after mine.  So we both know what the other is going through.  I look at the difficult time some friends are having dealing with the changes in my wife & I, I have to say it is not hard to understand why some people have difficulties with their marriages following WLS.  When someone in a marriage go through changes such as we have experienced following WLS there are really only two options.  1) the relationship will grow stronger or 2) the relationship will go through a tough time.

It has to really suck finally getting weight issues under control and then having a rough time with a marriage.

Jim