Girls, Girls, Girls

Wrapping your mind around the mental side of WLS is much harder than the physical side.  It really was hard in the beginning.  I would have very good looking women making eye contact with me.  Before they would give me extra room when I wask walking by, like I was some kind of pervert with issues.  You get more respect is business situations.  And you're wondering...Look I'm the same person..."Why didn't you give me this respect when I was heavy"??  You need to slow down and maybe look to settle more.  Playing the field can really be empty after awhile.  Plus sex addiction can be real too.  I'm glad you see there is a problem.  Enjoy the ride...but be careful.  Brian

I have to agree with everyone on this. Since my surgery, I have found some uncomfortable situations that make it hard to wrap your head around it. There is one girl I knew when I was 365lbs who would barely say 2 words to me, but as soon as I lost the weight, she wanted to talk to me all the time. And yes, I started to notice the attention that women give to me now. It does make me feel a little more uncomfortable, and I try to avoid letting it give me a big head, but that's the tough part.  I did start dating a girl i met and we have been seeing each other for about 4 months. Some have said make sure you don't get caught into the pitfall of grabbing onto the first one and play the field. It makes it tough because I still think like my old self at times and have never been an experienced dater, so I'm not always sure what to do.

Keep up the good work, it's definitely amazing what the surgery does for you physically, but it's the mental side that's the hard part.