Six Months Update (Good, bad and ugly)
Hey Guys!
The Good: Saw my surgeon for six months post-op visit yesterday. On his "official" scales I'm at 205. That is 126 down from the 331 I started at. BMI hanging at 33. Not going to complain about that. Enjoy the smaller clothes, better health etc. Still have more to go but that is part of it.
The Bad: Wife and I have agreed that after twenty-one years together, five dating and sixteen married, that we had grown apart and were wanting to go different directions in life. Our life together had become stagnant. Hence thus therefore we are officially separated or will be as soon as all the paperwork is filed at the Courthouse. Not proud of hurting another human being but hurt comes with divorce.
The Ugly: Before anyone tells me I need to work to keep the marriage together - you are preaching to the choir! Stow it! I've heard that from friends, marriage counselors, preachers, relatives etc. Will go to my grave saying my soon to be ex is a damn good woman but we just can't be together anymore. To quote an old Conway Twitty / Loretta Lynn song "...there's nothing as cold as ashes after the fire is gone..."
The Good: Saw my surgeon for six months post-op visit yesterday. On his "official" scales I'm at 205. That is 126 down from the 331 I started at. BMI hanging at 33. Not going to complain about that. Enjoy the smaller clothes, better health etc. Still have more to go but that is part of it.
The Bad: Wife and I have agreed that after twenty-one years together, five dating and sixteen married, that we had grown apart and were wanting to go different directions in life. Our life together had become stagnant. Hence thus therefore we are officially separated or will be as soon as all the paperwork is filed at the Courthouse. Not proud of hurting another human being but hurt comes with divorce.
The Ugly: Before anyone tells me I need to work to keep the marriage together - you are preaching to the choir! Stow it! I've heard that from friends, marriage counselors, preachers, relatives etc. Will go to my grave saying my soon to be ex is a damn good woman but we just can't be together anymore. To quote an old Conway Twitty / Loretta Lynn song "...there's nothing as cold as ashes after the fire is gone..."
Never, and I mean NEVER, trust a fart!! 
Congrats on the great check up. That is awesome.
Sorry to hear about your pending divorce. In the past I have found it difficult to handle both happy and sad at the same time. And maybe for you it is not sad. I know about the ashes. I am personally looking around to find some of the warm coals. But when you know it is cold ashes it just is.
I hope you both find what makes your hearts sing. Sounds like you are both wanting to move towards that but just in different directions. It happens. Good Luck and stick to your goals.
Sorry to hear about your pending divorce. In the past I have found it difficult to handle both happy and sad at the same time. And maybe for you it is not sad. I know about the ashes. I am personally looking around to find some of the warm coals. But when you know it is cold ashes it just is.
I hope you both find what makes your hearts sing. Sounds like you are both wanting to move towards that but just in different directions. It happens. Good Luck and stick to your goals.
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on 10/9/08 3:29 am - Houston, TX
on 10/9/08 3:29 am - Houston, TX
Don Congrats..
and you and I think alike...there is no way that you spend 21 years with someone, to walk away and talk trash about them...that is like saying you had poor judgement for 21 years..comeing from broken home is not nearly as bad as living in one..
and you and I think alike...there is no way that you spend 21 years with someone, to walk away and talk trash about them...that is like saying you had poor judgement for 21 years..comeing from broken home is not nearly as bad as living in one..
Had we been I might still be there! 
Don,
Congratulations on your loss. The weight that is.
I do feel for you and know what you are going through. I am going through divorce as we speak. We have been married 34 years and she decided she didn't want to be married any more. I am moving out of the house in 1 week.
No matter how you go through it, it sucks. I hope you don't have too bad of a time with it. Good luck to you.
Dan
Congratulations on your loss. The weight that is.
I do feel for you and know what you are going through. I am going through divorce as we speak. We have been married 34 years and she decided she didn't want to be married any more. I am moving out of the house in 1 week.
No matter how you go through it, it sucks. I hope you don't have too bad of a time with it. Good luck to you.
Dan
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