Feeling Mopey

 Whoever said 'breaking up is hard to do' hit the nail on the head. Me and my girl of 3 years decided to end our relationship last night due to irreconcilable differences. Everything went amicably but there's still plenty of just nasty heart hurt. How do you deal with things of this nature? Especially now that  I don't even have food as a comfort. Just wanted to vent a little. Thanks.

Hang in there and force yourself to do the things that you know are the right things to do, while avoiding those things that you know won't help.  I have been going through some serious depression over the past 10-12 days.  I am pretty sure mine is related to my rapid weight loss phase and dumping hormones.  However, the one thing that has made me feel better is just putting one foot in front of the other and doing the things that I know in my mind are the right things to do.  My heart isn't always in it yet, but I know I just have to do it.  Food is not the comfort that I (and apparently you, too) have given it credit for in the past. 

Merlin

Lance,

I know how you feel, Alan and I split up last week and its killing me. In the past I would have hit the B&B---buffet and bar. Eat and then get hammered. This time I did the opposite, I went 5 days with hardly eating or drinking. I was getting dizzy and starting to stumble. I'm trying to eat now, I just don't want to. I wish I had some magic words for you Lance but I'm in the same boat and mine's sinking. Tonight I'll PM you my cell # if you want to talk. Good Luck

Thanks. Yeah it's been rough so far. My eyes are damn puffy and I have to go to school. Why can't life just stop for 5 minutes!!!??

Yeah I can relate to the puffy eyes. Get some Visine, it will help clear them up,but when you start thinking about it again they'll be puffy. Yes it would be nice if life could just stop for 5 minutes just so we could get a little relief.

Really sorry about your news.  There is no magic cure for getting through this, unfortunately.  Just going to take time. Have to keep putting one foot in front of the other, and force yourself  to do the tasks of daily life.  Good luck, Michael

There's another song that goes "Love takes time to heal when you're hurting so much...". Not that I've EVER listened to it...lol. But I think the line is also very true.

Every day things should start getting better...hang in there!

Lance,

This one is for you and Rich:  

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B1sDTTRjncY

Sorry to hear about the loss of someone you obviously care a lot about.  In my own life, the break up of a girlfriend was probably one of the hardest things I ever went through.  Talking about it and allowing yourself to feel the pain of it is a much healthier solution than trying to stuff the feelings with food. 

 Lance, hope you feel better soon. I know that's tough.

I went through the same thing in my 30's but it was my own fault. I kept finding good ones, but then I wanted other ones, yet still wanted the previous ones. Sound extravagant, I guess, but in reality, lots of self-torture. Living in Japan can be a two-edged sword.

Hope the foot's doing better. Are you able to get out and get some activity in? That would surely help.

Best Wishes,

Dave