@ SJBOB. YOU ARE A COMPLETE A**
So,
There was a post that men should come over to the men's forum and check it out. I simply post that I'll come on over and check it out... then this morning I get a message from: SJBOB
http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/sjbob/
Below in italics is his message:
We can't stop you from reading the Men's Forum. But, we kindly ask you not to post there. It is the only forum in all of OH dedicated to Men. Actually, we can't even stop you from posting, but women who do post usually get crude reminders to leave us alone. I personally don't mind the occasional post from someone on the obesityhelp.com staff mentioning a man who can use our help. And, sometimes a woman will post about her husband or boyfriend who is too ill to contact us at the time. We usually ask that the man involve contact us ASAP.
Other than that, we don't want to hear from women. We've had women trolling through our forum and it just upsets everyone. Most of us are married and simply want support and male comraderie on our WLS journey. Bob
You are an a**Hole
Do I look like that that much of a woman? Seriously? What, because I have a baby in my arms that makes me a woman? Guess what ass, I'm a married man. I love my son! What becuase I have an avitar of him with me in my arms I am a woman? WTF. This really friggin ****** me off. If you took the 5 seconds to actually read my profile, or the 1/2 seccond to see my botton below as a "BIG BROTHER", you would realize that I am a man. WHAT A DICK.
--Mike
There was a post that men should come over to the men's forum and check it out. I simply post that I'll come on over and check it out... then this morning I get a message from: SJBOB
http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/sjbob/
Below in italics is his message:
We can't stop you from reading the Men's Forum. But, we kindly ask you not to post there. It is the only forum in all of OH dedicated to Men. Actually, we can't even stop you from posting, but women who do post usually get crude reminders to leave us alone. I personally don't mind the occasional post from someone on the obesityhelp.com staff mentioning a man who can use our help. And, sometimes a woman will post about her husband or boyfriend who is too ill to contact us at the time. We usually ask that the man involve contact us ASAP.
Other than that, we don't want to hear from women. We've had women trolling through our forum and it just upsets everyone. Most of us are married and simply want support and male comraderie on our WLS journey. Bob
You are an a**Hole
Do I look like that that much of a woman? Seriously? What, because I have a baby in my arms that makes me a woman? Guess what ass, I'm a married man. I love my son! What becuase I have an avitar of him with me in my arms I am a woman? WTF. This really friggin ****** me off. If you took the 5 seconds to actually read my profile, or the 1/2 seccond to see my botton below as a "BIG BROTHER", you would realize that I am a man. WHAT A DICK.
--Mike
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Hey Michael,
I understand why you're upset and I'm sorry that happened. I hope that because one member did this that you won't assume that everyone on this group will treat you the same way. If you need any kind of support or just want to share something, feel free to do that. I can promise you at least someone will respond to you in a caring manner. That's what these boards are for.
It doesn't matter how someone perceived you with your avatar. Keep loving and holding that baby. They grow up too fast.
Again, I understand the hard feelings, but don't have them against the group. Hope to see you posting more.
Trent
“In case you never get a second chance: don't be afraid!" "And what if you do get a second chance?" "You take it!” ― C. JoyBell C.
Mike
That is a sucky way to get intoduced to the group here. Come by often as we are a pretty good group of guys. That and male support groups for WLS are hard to find.
I love my kiddos too - I got 7 of them - and they don't stay small very long so cherish those moments!
That is a sucky way to get intoduced to the group here. Come by often as we are a pretty good group of guys. That and male support groups for WLS are hard to find.
I love my kiddos too - I got 7 of them - and they don't stay small very long so cherish those moments!
Dan
"Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." - Benjamin Franklin
"Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." - Benjamin Franklin
Hey Michael, sorry about that. We really are a good support group. I just think SJBOB made a mistake. Your profile pictures show you more clearly than the avitar. I had to look at the profile first to see also. I think your name can be taken as a man or woman too. Mistakes happen man...stick around if you would and see what we're like, if you're up to it. We are a good group of guys. Brian PS Over the years we have had alot of women come to this board and try to cause trouble...just because they could. We have become very protective of this place...It really is hard to find support from other guys. You see the ratios on the Main Board. Again, you're welcome here.
Hello Fellow Wisconsonite,
Glad you posted and introduced yourself. I'm sorry that you were mistaken that way, but there is no doubt you have balls with your ability to speak your mind. Welcome to the locker room where we can talk like men. BTW, I'm amazed with your progress pre-surgery. That is some awesome weight loss on your own.
Stephan in La Crosse,
Glad you posted and introduced yourself. I'm sorry that you were mistaken that way, but there is no doubt you have balls with your ability to speak your mind. Welcome to the locker room where we can talk like men. BTW, I'm amazed with your progress pre-surgery. That is some awesome weight loss on your own.
Stephan in La Crosse,
(deactivated member)
on 3/5/09 3:37 am - MN
on 3/5/09 3:37 am - MN
My friend:
Even though this seems to have been a simple case of mistaken identity, you have to question the HELPFULLNESS of someone who sends out such hate.
I hope you find helpfulness and happiness, wherever you call home.
Brock
Even though this seems to have been a simple case of mistaken identity, you have to question the HELPFULLNESS of someone who sends out such hate.
I hope you find helpfulness and happiness, wherever you call home.
Brock
Well I definitely think SJBOB!!!! Should apologize to you, sir because I think it's amazing that you have a baby in your arms and that just goes to show that not only WOMEN can care for their young. Please don't feel like we all are so quick to judge by a picture here on the men's forum. Please feel free to post as you wish. I'm so sorry.
Michael, I'm sorry for my error and I'm sorry for offending you. What I don't understand is why you didn't Contact me directly through OH. I wrote my response to you directly in reference to a general post on the main forum by cabin111. I was trying to be discrete and to avoid the flare-ups that often come when we post about our forum on the Main Forum.
I periodically go over to the Main Forum to see what's currently being discussed there. It's hard to keep up since there are so many people posting that what you see in only a couple hours may be back a page or more by the time you get back over there. I also look for Men who are posting on the Main Forum who may not know of the existence of the Men's Forum and I contact them directly and invite them to come join our forum.
Do I make mistakes in life? Yep. Do I commit sins? Yes. Am I sorry when I find out that I've hurt someone else? That last one is a definte yes. Considering my mental condition and how afraid I am to offend anyone, in the past the realization that I hurt you would probably have sent me into a depression. Fortunately, I've grown a lot in the last month and I can admit my wrongdoing, feel true sorrow and remorse, and hope to have learned something positive from the experience.
So, again I say that I am sorry. I hope you will post here more often. You can see from the wide response you got that you are surely welcome here. Bob
I periodically go over to the Main Forum to see what's currently being discussed there. It's hard to keep up since there are so many people posting that what you see in only a couple hours may be back a page or more by the time you get back over there. I also look for Men who are posting on the Main Forum who may not know of the existence of the Men's Forum and I contact them directly and invite them to come join our forum.
Do I make mistakes in life? Yep. Do I commit sins? Yes. Am I sorry when I find out that I've hurt someone else? That last one is a definte yes. Considering my mental condition and how afraid I am to offend anyone, in the past the realization that I hurt you would probably have sent me into a depression. Fortunately, I've grown a lot in the last month and I can admit my wrongdoing, feel true sorrow and remorse, and hope to have learned something positive from the experience.
So, again I say that I am sorry. I hope you will post here more often. You can see from the wide response you got that you are surely welcome here. Bob
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