Comments that hurt.......LONG

(deactivated member)
on 5/8/08 7:49 am - Blaine, MN
I agree so much - well said Sandie!  I've seen the comments and have thought to myself "gosh is this what I have to look forward to when I hit goal?"  I've only had one person tell me I'm getting too skinny but it was an overweight coworker.  First of all, I think it's painfully obvious I'm not too skinny yet and it just gave me a glimpse on when I do get to goal that I may have to deal with that stuff and my first reaction is to defend myself.  I shouldn't have to!!  I have worked this tool hard!!!! Your post is a good reminder and I'm sure it wasn't easy to say but sometimes things just have to be said. (((Hugs))) Michelle
Sandra N.
on 5/8/08 7:55 am - MN
You're right Michelle! It wasn't easy to say.  AND YOU should NOT have to defend using your tool CORRECTLY!!  It is easier for me to hear my family say such things as they have seen me my whole life plump but when another WLS peep says those things......And then when I hear my friends WHO HAVE worked the tool properly get the same comments I CAN NOT BE SILENT NO  MORE!   How your chin up Hon!  There are people who are cruel and unthoughtful but then there are those who still will be happy for your success and for YOU!!!  I AM PROUD OF YOU!!   HUGS!

 ~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
  Click on link to see my journey!!! 
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
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"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with!  Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

 
  



Godisable08
on 5/8/08 1:18 pm - minneapolis, MN
Well saidMy surgery is the end of this month.   However,  I have already got little comments here and there.  Like one.  You have a cute face, why do you need to do that.  Or this one "I'm hating on you already" you are just going to be so perfect now, with your face and now a small body.  And check this one out. "Well, I guess you won't be hanging out with us big people.   Last but not least why are you messing up your system with that stuff, God made you this way, so be happy.   I am so sick of it already and I haven't had my surgery yet!    Well, its time for me to put on the whole armour of God now.   Because I know its more to come.   But thanks for your post sandie!!!  God bless you!

Godisable

Sandra N.
on 5/9/08 6:41 am - MN
Thank you!  Words can soo hurt and people need to be aware of that! Hugs

 ~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
  Click on link to see my journey!!! 
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url

"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with!  Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

 
  



NicoleLynn
on 5/8/08 7:57 am - Minneapolis, MN
Sandie~Thank you for posting this because this is supposed to be a safe and supportive place for all WLS people no matter where you are in your journey.  I am truely hope that I have not said anything like this to any one, I can't recall any time when I would have, but right now my brain is fried after being at work all day.  I do hope that this will nip the problem in the bud.  You are truely a wonderful friend!  Love & Hugs! Nicole

"When you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

Sandra N.
on 5/8/08 8:03 am - MN
Hey Hon! You are right!  THIS IS SUPPOSE to be a supportive place to come no matter where you are!  I too hope that this will wake "them" up and stop such foolishness! Love and Hugs!

 ~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
  Click on link to see my journey!!! 
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url

"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with!  Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

 
  



Kiba0003
on 5/8/08 7:59 am, edited 5/8/08 8:00 am - Corcoran, MN
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Sandra N.
on 5/8/08 8:05 am - MN
Hey Dear!  It might be ENVY or Jealousy BUT how crazy is that?  I mean, some of the comments are from WLS peeps WHO HAVE THE TOOL also!!!  DUH!   HUGS!

 ~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
  Click on link to see my journey!!! 
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url

"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with!  Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

 
  



Kiba0003
on 5/8/08 8:34 am - Corcoran, MN
It's no excuse....but I think it's one  thing  to be jealous when you don't have the tool but it's a whole different level of jealousy when you GOT the tool and can only blame yourself for misusing it!! It'sa sad route to go and as you all told me....ignore the bad, focus on the good.

2019: 11 years out and maintaining a loss of 150lbs.

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Sandra N.
on 5/8/08 8:46 am - MN
Yep! A whole different kind!  Which *I* can ignore as I know that *these* people who have said this to another WLS are miserable with themselves.  BUT I am not gonna just sit on the bench and allow it!  Cuz IF they would use their tool CORRECTLY then THEY would be there too!  AND THESE peeps should focus on the good that THEY have the tool and THEY can use it. SOME ONE needs to be the voice to spank the butts of these fellow WLS peeps that are green with envy when the power to use the tool CORRCETLY is IN THEIR hands! You, I have a feeling, are gonna be one that WILL use the tool WISELY!!   HUGS!

 ~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
  Click on link to see my journey!!! 
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url

"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with!  Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!

 
  



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