life is so not fair

Darla S.
on 6/12/08 1:31 am - Maple Grove, MN

Vent away, sugar. Facing the loss of someone we love sucks no matter how you look at it. Be glad that you found the relationship with your dad and his side of the family when you did, rather than remain under the dark cloud your mother created. Sounds like you & my hubby could have some very heated, colorful conversations about your mothers. My monster-in-law is a real piece of work, too. oye...

Imperfect does not = unsuccessful

Marsha F.
on 6/12/08 2:00 am

RNY on 12/13/07

boy could we ever........Thank you so much hun and I hope to see you guys soon....

Lisa B.
on 6/12/08 2:31 am - Independence, KS

RNY on 10/12/07

Vent when you need to honey. It's a healthy thing to do. I understand where you are coming from, I felt the same things and asked the same questions when my mom was on her final round of cancer two years ago. I couldn't fathom how I would continue on without her, and I'm not a religous person, but I sure begged and pleaded with the higher powers that be, tried making deals, and finally accepted that I would lose her daily phsical presence. Once I accepted that she was a fighter but that she was tired and she'd been through enough hell to stay here with us just one more day I finally found some peace in the situation, and though I could never bring myself to actually say to her that it was ok to finally go, I think she knew. Her final day I sat with her just holding her hand and telling her over and over how much I loved her, and making all the promises for things I would do to carry on, and how I would keep her memory alive in myself and my children. I promised to be there for my younger sister who all too often just bottles in her pain, and to be a great aunt if not substitute grandma for the baby she was carrying at the time, that my mom desparatly wanted to see and never got to. I still miss her everyday, I"m sure I always will, but I take great comfort knowing she watches over me, and that she is proud of everything I do and accomplish. I don't know that this will help you at all, but it is what got me through and continues to get me through the tough times. You will find your own acceptance and your own peace when the time is right. Until then you have wonderful friends and Sisters/brothers who love you and are here for you whenever you need us. Love and hugs to you honey. Lisa

Hugs ~ Lisa
Well behaved women rarely make history!
305/296/147/150 159 pounds down 3 lbs below goal!
Highest weight/day of surgery/current weight/goal weight

Marsha F.
on 6/12/08 3:05 am

RNY on 12/13/07

Thanks hun and how are you? I hope things are working out for you now...keep in touch sweetie

Lisa B.
on 6/12/08 3:10 am - Independence, KS

RNY on 10/12/07

They're going. The kids and I have been busy packing and moving a truckload at a time for the past couple of days. I'm expecting to have the final of it done either Sunday or Monday (I'm leaving tomorrow at noon for a wedding in Iowa and won't be back till sunday afternoon) I'm exhausted and ready for a real vacation LOL.

Hugs ~ Lisa
Well behaved women rarely make history!
305/296/147/150 159 pounds down 3 lbs below goal!
Highest weight/day of surgery/current weight/goal weight

doodlebug
on 6/12/08 4:19 am - MN

RNY on 05/10/05

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, I hope things get better.

Blessed are those who can give without remembering
And take without forgetting.

Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive.

May You Fly with Eagles
Run with Wolves
Walk with Buffalos
and
Always be my Friend

CheriLynn
on 6/12/08 9:13 am - Paynesville, MN

RNY on 04/25/08

Marsha I am so sorry to hear the cancer is that aggressive.

I lost my Uncle to lung and brain cancer in May 2007- I too questioned God's taking a good man when it would be so much better to take those that are cruel and deranged. My Uncle was only 52, married with 3 kids under age 17 =(

It was a good friend who explained this to me and it helped me so much.....

There is more than we can imagine going on in the Heaven/ hell realm - Perhaps God needed my uncle more than we did... His death was NOT the end for him, he no longer suffers, he is whole, at peace and now a part of the Lord's army. I believe he is watching over my family- that he has a purpose in Heaven that had to be filled, just as he had a purpose on Earth while he was here. I like to think of Him helping in God's Kingdom, perhaps preparing for Jesus' return and the defeat of the Devil. I KNOW my Uncle was a good man, one of the best- Doesn't God deserve the BEST in his Kingdom! As much as I love and miss him- I am proud and happy he is in Heaven.

Have faith hun- God knows what He is doing and He will be there for you always!

Hugs,

Cheri Lynn

5'2" - High Weight=224 / Current=145 / My Goal= 130

Believe in Miracles...

Marsha F.
on 6/12/08 11:17 am

RNY on 12/13/07

You are so right i never thought of it like that. Thanks hun. hugs marsh

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