Upset

Thanks Darla!  You are just a gem!!! My friend (she's a supportive one who doesn't make fun of me, lol) said "You should have said well maybe if you lost all that extra lard off your a ** you'd walk different too!"  The difference is, my friend would probably be the type to REALLY say that, where I don't like confrontations so I'd rather just let it go.  If it continues, I really feel like I will have to sit down and explain to them that it is hurting my feelings. Thanks for all the great words of advice.  It really helps!  xoxo (((Hugs))) Michelle

Michelle......I would say they are green with envy!!  You are absolutely gorgeous and always have been! They feel threatened....poor things....can't stand the competition!! (((((HUGS)))))   connie d

I am starting to see this Connie.  It's really a shame isn't it - and from so called "friends".  I really am baffled that friends would do this.  All I can say is thank God for the support of this board and people like you who get it.  It really helps! (((Hugs))) Michelle

sweety, don't take this as an insult... take it as a compliment... before, they didn't see you as a threat... Now that you are absolutely gorgeous... you are.... and now the claws and teeth come out..... Think about it, when you were heavy, how often did a woman look at you with jelousy or envy? Think about it... it really is a mark of how far you've come.....

You are right Diane - I can't say I got barely a second look before, and now things have changed.  It is different and an adjustment that's for sure.  It's wonderful to have this new body and feel healthy, but then there are the jerks who want to try and ruin it.   Thanks so much for your support and encouragement!!! (((Hugs))) Michelle

(((Michelle))) Yep, it's jealousy.........I agree with everyone on here....... Handle it as you see fit........But I do think one of these days, to shut them up you will have to stand up for yourself........I can only imagine how bad you must have felt......I hope that I don't ever have to deal with people like that......... You are beautiful, and have done amazing with your tool..... People that haven't had WLS think this is the easy way out........If they only knew........ Keep your head up, Don't let these women get to you....... Love & Hugs, Kelly

Thank you so much Kelly!  You are too sweet! I hope you don't have to deal with it either.  I had read the stories of this happening and you think you will be prepared for it, but it really hurts.  I just need to have to learn to have that "I don't care" attitude and realize it's their problem, not mine.  I am pretty sure this is what my counselor will tell me tomorrow.  She'll just give me good ideas on how to handle something like this next time because I have a feeling I'll be dealing with it again.  (unfortunately)  Isn't it a shame that I have to anticipate dealing with this again?  Why should I have to?  People just don't think. Anyway, I'm just rambling but thanks again!!! (((Hugs))) Michelle