Trying to Juggle Too Many Things (long)
LIfe is just so crazy complicated. I feel like I am trying to balance 10 different sized plates on 1 stick. I gotta get this out of my head, and I do see a therapist weekly.
Laurie, my daughter (27) is at the U of MN for scheduled inpatient meds, she needs to get her IV antibiotics up and going so she can be strong for school to start Sept 3. Should get out Friday hopefully. She has Cystic Fibrosis and her pft's were really lousy yesterday.
Jason (Laurie bf and Nemi daddy) is working (hooray) So I have miss Nemi.
My job ended July 3 and I MISS IT!!!! Can't go back to wor****il Sept 15th. I do have a good chance at getting to go back to work at the U sometime in Sept or Oct, (waiting on the powers that be to make department move decisions.)
Have an appt w/surgeon 8/14 that cut a Fibroma off the bottom of my foot 4 years ago, since it is growing back and making walking really difficult.
They are doing testing this week on my dad to find out exactly what is going on with him, diagnosis so far is Alzheimers. Nemi, Marlin and I are meeting Dad and his 3rd wife in Rochester this evening. He has a pacemaker and other heart issues and from what I understand they have to be very careful what medications they give him. He is 75.
The situation with Marlin's family is geting worse. Let's just say it is time I start looking for a place to live. Marlin does not want me to leave, I don't want to leave him. His answer, "Can't you just learn to get along?"
BUT I cannot live in a situation where I am not to have ANY say so over what I eat for dinner, how it is prepared, Overcooked to the max. His mother is adamant that dinner not be before 6:30 and usually 7. I end up munching and munching before dinner because I am so hungry and then after dinner. Never feeling like I am full. Thank God, I am not gaining any weight back.
He does not feel that he can leave her, she is 75. One of his brothers and his gf live here too. No one else has a car or license to drive.
They get mad if I have Nemi too often, 5 or 7 nights a month is fine but more than that is toooooo much. They say I have tried to control the whole house, too many baby toys in the back yard, trying to get my nutritional needs met, etc.
I have asked for a low income housing application and maybe I can get my own place where I can make the rules.
Take care all and thanks for reading,
Karen thinking of taking juggling lessons
Laurie, my daughter (27) is at the U of MN for scheduled inpatient meds, she needs to get her IV antibiotics up and going so she can be strong for school to start Sept 3. Should get out Friday hopefully. She has Cystic Fibrosis and her pft's were really lousy yesterday.
Jason (Laurie bf and Nemi daddy) is working (hooray) So I have miss Nemi.
My job ended July 3 and I MISS IT!!!! Can't go back to wor****il Sept 15th. I do have a good chance at getting to go back to work at the U sometime in Sept or Oct, (waiting on the powers that be to make department move decisions.)
Have an appt w/surgeon 8/14 that cut a Fibroma off the bottom of my foot 4 years ago, since it is growing back and making walking really difficult.
They are doing testing this week on my dad to find out exactly what is going on with him, diagnosis so far is Alzheimers. Nemi, Marlin and I are meeting Dad and his 3rd wife in Rochester this evening. He has a pacemaker and other heart issues and from what I understand they have to be very careful what medications they give him. He is 75.
The situation with Marlin's family is geting worse. Let's just say it is time I start looking for a place to live. Marlin does not want me to leave, I don't want to leave him. His answer, "Can't you just learn to get along?"
BUT I cannot live in a situation where I am not to have ANY say so over what I eat for dinner, how it is prepared, Overcooked to the max. His mother is adamant that dinner not be before 6:30 and usually 7. I end up munching and munching before dinner because I am so hungry and then after dinner. Never feeling like I am full. Thank God, I am not gaining any weight back.
He does not feel that he can leave her, she is 75. One of his brothers and his gf live here too. No one else has a car or license to drive.
They get mad if I have Nemi too often, 5 or 7 nights a month is fine but more than that is toooooo much. They say I have tried to control the whole house, too many baby toys in the back yard, trying to get my nutritional needs met, etc.
I have asked for a low income housing application and maybe I can get my own place where I can make the rules.
Take care all and thanks for reading,
Karen thinking of taking juggling lessons
Thank You!! I love that avatar, every time I see it I think of Nemi. I should put a new pic up of her.
I hope it will get him out of here with me, I don't want to loose him. I met him on the computer 6 years ago, He is a real prince and a fantastic dad to Laurie and insanely in love with Nemi.
Have a great day
Karen
I hope it will get him out of here with me, I don't want to loose him. I met him on the computer 6 years ago, He is a real prince and a fantastic dad to Laurie and insanely in love with Nemi.
Have a great day
Karen
Sorry you have to go through all of this. I hope things work out for the best. Tell Laurie she is in our thoughts and prayers to be strong for school. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers as well. I think your doing the right thing by looking for a place of your own. Were here for ya.... Hugs Marsha
Karen~Yikes it sounds like you most definitely are in a balancing act right now. I will keep you in my prayers that everything works out for the best (job, Laurie, house, Marlin and your dad). I can not believe that in a house full of adults that people believe they can still control everything as if they were living with children. I do hope that you are able to get into a nice low-income apartment (I know there are some out there so hopefully you will find a good one) and get Marlin to move out with you and leave his brother and his gf take care of what sounds like a very demanding woman. You deserve to be happy and healthy and it sounds like that house is neither. Hopefully everything will come together well and you can end this act and proceed with a calmer life! Love & Hugs! Nicole
"When you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."
Karen,
Wow, your plate is WAY FULL........Sorry things are going a little rough....I think your making the right choice to move out........I think you've stayed too long......Hopefully you & your bf will figure out something......Who knows maybe living apart will make your relationship better.......
Good luck to you.........I hope things work out for your daughter too and she gets the medicine to work.
Kelly
Wow, your plate is WAY FULL........Sorry things are going a little rough....I think your making the right choice to move out........I think you've stayed too long......Hopefully you & your bf will figure out something......Who knows maybe living apart will make your relationship better.......
Good luck to you.........I hope things work out for your daughter too and she gets the medicine to work.
Kelly
Karen, I hope you're able to find a better living arrangement. That's got to be really hard when everything you're trying to do for yourself is compromised by someone else. Your FIRST priority is yourself - no ifs, ands or buts! Marlin's mother needs to understand that and if she can't, it's time to move somewhere where you can gain that control back. You didn't go through this surgery to end up back where you were (thank goodness, you're not gaining!). They need to understand that having a baby in the house includes everything that goes along with that - toys, crying, getting into things, etc., etc., etc. I love my parents, but I could never live with them again! {{{hugs}}}
Nancy 
Thank You all for your encouragement. I have thought and thought about this. I do not want to loose Marlin. He is the best, most understanding man I have ever met.
Laurie's meds are up and running, hopefully out Friday.
Nemi handled a long day in the car very well. I am doing my best today to keep her active and let her run off that pent up energy,
We went to a fancy Italian restaurant in Rochester with Dad and Mary Pat (2nd step-mom). Nemi did me so proud, sat in her high-chair ate her noodles and food like a trooper. Never a whine, colored a pcture to take to Laurie later today.
My Dad, oh where has he gone. He is a shadow of himself, has gained weight, his knees are horrible, has gout in his big toes. We walked the 3 blocks from the hotel to the restaurant, he pushed Nemi in the stroller because he heeded something to hold onto to help his balance.
We talked alot, he remembers alot but he repeated the same thing from yesterday over and over. The dad I remember is only there part time. He looks so short and defeated. What losing 5 of his 6 children did not do, Alzheimer's has done in about a year. Hopefully they can find a med that will help for at least a little while.
Again, thank you for your support,
Karen
Laurie's meds are up and running, hopefully out Friday.
Nemi handled a long day in the car very well. I am doing my best today to keep her active and let her run off that pent up energy,
We went to a fancy Italian restaurant in Rochester with Dad and Mary Pat (2nd step-mom). Nemi did me so proud, sat in her high-chair ate her noodles and food like a trooper. Never a whine, colored a pcture to take to Laurie later today.
My Dad, oh where has he gone. He is a shadow of himself, has gained weight, his knees are horrible, has gout in his big toes. We walked the 3 blocks from the hotel to the restaurant, he pushed Nemi in the stroller because he heeded something to hold onto to help his balance.
We talked alot, he remembers alot but he repeated the same thing from yesterday over and over. The dad I remember is only there part time. He looks so short and defeated. What losing 5 of his 6 children did not do, Alzheimer's has done in about a year. Hopefully they can find a med that will help for at least a little while.
Again, thank you for your support,
Karen
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