I just don't get it
I just don't fricken understand....... why people have to suffer from cancer. My uncle is still hanging on and has everyone baffled on how he is still with us. He can't walk or swallow anything anymore and the patches for the cancer are not working he is in so much pain and it SUCKS>>>>>>>>>> WTF.............. What causes this? Does anyone know? For god sakes I think enough is enough. My heart goes out to everyone and there families that have to suffer from this. I just don't get it. No matter what the age it is always there. Just had to vent I guess.....
Many hugs to all Marsha
Many hugs to all Marsha
I'm sorry you're having a hard time. It's got to suck knowing he's in such pain, I can't imagine. Are the patches the max they can give him for pain? He sure seems to be hanging on alot longer than anyone expected- Why? I'm not sure you'll ever know. 
Hugs to you & your family.
Hugs to you & your family. Kristy (weight loss below does not include 16lbs lost during pre WLS diet)
START: 325 Day of Surgery :309 GOAL: 180
My dearest Marsha, As I said in an earlier post, "F**K Cancer" - says it all.
But for those who have not experienced the passing experience with a very close relative, it does seem to really suck. I'm certainly a believer in the afterlife. I've watched my closest grandparents die. I watched my dad die. The whole process of death is actually very, very beautiful. And whether I'm right or not, they are my thoughts and I've been very blessed to have shared this with my family. There is a time, in what I believe, where the soul has a leg in earth and a leg in the afterlife. Little things happen that you can't explain. I'd like to hope what I'm thinking is what is happening. Can't prove it. But its faith that helps me through it.
I hope you know that as awful as it sounds, your loved one is likely in no pain. Most hospice programs make certain of that. They sound horrible - the breathing, the rattle in the chest. The gasping of air. All medical providers that I've known have said that it is not painful to your loved one. I believe they leave their bodies before their bodies shut down.
Or at least that is what I'd like to think.
:there is likely unfinished business with your uncle. It could be that he is waiting for someone to show up. It could be that he is waiting to be alone. We don't know. When he is ready, he will pass. There will be a wave of relief (as horrible as that sounds), then the grieving can begin. Yes, it sucks. But it also makes me realize that so many things are taken for granted in my life. So hug a little longer, share feelings a little more, run in the rain without an umbrella, and Love, love, love.
Many hugs to you at this tough time. Kelly
But for those who have not experienced the passing experience with a very close relative, it does seem to really suck. I'm certainly a believer in the afterlife. I've watched my closest grandparents die. I watched my dad die. The whole process of death is actually very, very beautiful. And whether I'm right or not, they are my thoughts and I've been very blessed to have shared this with my family. There is a time, in what I believe, where the soul has a leg in earth and a leg in the afterlife. Little things happen that you can't explain. I'd like to hope what I'm thinking is what is happening. Can't prove it. But its faith that helps me through it.
I hope you know that as awful as it sounds, your loved one is likely in no pain. Most hospice programs make certain of that. They sound horrible - the breathing, the rattle in the chest. The gasping of air. All medical providers that I've known have said that it is not painful to your loved one. I believe they leave their bodies before their bodies shut down.
Or at least that is what I'd like to think.
:there is likely unfinished business with your uncle. It could be that he is waiting for someone to show up. It could be that he is waiting to be alone. We don't know. When he is ready, he will pass. There will be a wave of relief (as horrible as that sounds), then the grieving can begin. Yes, it sucks. But it also makes me realize that so many things are taken for granted in my life. So hug a little longer, share feelings a little more, run in the rain without an umbrella, and Love, love, love.
Many hugs to you at this tough time. Kelly
Sweetie Marsha, I empathize with your frustration. We just can't question God's time line, only have faith He has a plan for each of us. Having just lost a dear aunt just over a week ago, after fifteen years of cancer, with a seven-year clearance, it returned with a vengeance three years ago. My dear (minister) uncle mentioned at the 'celebration of life' service, that he'd been praying for the past six months that she be called home. God does not 'make' people suffer, only desires any suffering leads to finding or reaffirming Faith in the Tree of Life. Prayers for your peace of mind. I genuinely feel your painful processing of this ugly disease. Take good care of you hon. Compassionate hugs galore, Patti
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Hi Marsha~
As a hospice volunteer, I've witnessed lots of people linger on when by all indicators, they should have died. The will to live is a very strong mechanism.
My own beloved husband fought to the very last breath for life, as he loved me and our kids so much. He was only 42 and died from a voracious cancer that killed him in 5 months, from the day of diagnosis to the last breath. That was 15 years ago, and not a day goes by without my thinking of him.
My prayers continue on for your uncle--that he will be able to let go and be in peace, and for your family.
BIG ((HUGS))
**SUE**
As a hospice volunteer, I've witnessed lots of people linger on when by all indicators, they should have died. The will to live is a very strong mechanism.
My own beloved husband fought to the very last breath for life, as he loved me and our kids so much. He was only 42 and died from a voracious cancer that killed him in 5 months, from the day of diagnosis to the last breath. That was 15 years ago, and not a day goes by without my thinking of him.
My prayers continue on for your uncle--that he will be able to let go and be in peace, and for your family.
BIG ((HUGS))
**SUE**
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on 10/13/08 12:33 am - MN
on 10/13/08 12:33 am - MN
Sorry to hear that your uncle is suffering so much - I pray that God will take away the suffering soon. Just try to hang onto the fact that God won't take him until all his business is finished here - so something must be keeping him here...maybe he needs to hear that he can let go - sometimes people need permission from their loved ones before they will pass....God only knows, I'm so sorry it's been such a long and frustrating road for you Marsha - I will keep your uncle and your family in my prayers!
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