OT: Those *****ALLY know me...HELP!
SOOOOO, the one new hire that I haven't worked with said that I am intimidating!!!! WHAT?!?!? ME?!?!? SERIOUSLY?????
So, Honestly, am I? Just curious. I had asked my boss and another coworker if I was and they said only when I am upset(valid upset)that I can be but overall not.
I never want to be an intimitadating person to anyone, but rather warm and friendly and honest.....
~Sandie~ 
-147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
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You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!
Maybe this peson should cut out the coffee and start drinking regular tea--something with natural sedatives in it.
Or PLAIN water..Don't let this one new hire wreck your self-image. You're wonderful!
Thank you sweetie!!! LOVES YA!
~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
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"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!
Is this person young? I would HAVE to make the assumption that the intimidation was internal - something INSIDE the new person, NOT in your presentation!
I say that because I once met a woman I thought was intimidating. Very pretty, very quiet, but she HAD to be stuck up. Turns out, she was very SHY, and it was my attitude about MYSELF that gave me the impression she was stuck up!
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
HUGS/LOVES
~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
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"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!
~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!
In my opinion, you aren't intimidating. At all. Look at the person who said this to you. Are they weak? Are they a follower? Someone who doesn't take criticism well? Maybe the word intimidating should have been assertive. You know what you want and you say it. And if you are more experienced at your job and looked at as a role model, then perhaps its assertive. Which is such a good thing. Most WLS patients aren't assertive until after they shed the layers - inside and out.
Intimidating - nah. Bru**** off.
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HUGS
~Sandie~ -147!!WLS:12-12-06:Preop 268,Ht.5'4",BMI 44.9
Click on link to see my journey!!!
http://www.onetruemedia.com/my_shared?z=2bfaca5561a1d558fceb
87&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
"Do unto others as you'd have done to you"~ The Golden Rule to Live by!
You are what you EAT and WHO you hang out with! Choices=Outcome~ what's YOUR choice??
I'm not perfect but I am going to die trying!!!
Seriously, anyone who has ever met me, at first glance, I am a big scary man. I put a lot of people off because I look angry. It gets worse if I am not wearing my glasses and have to slightly squint to see things. Then I look really pissed.
Truth be known, it is a great way to keep people at arms length until I feel comfortable with them. But it does have it's drawbacks. Some people I can never reach. Or my intentions maybe mis-read.
Do not feel bad because someone finds you intimidating or threatening. And don't go out of your way to make them feel comfortable. If you are yourself, they will eventually come around to seeing the real you.
Advice from an intimidating person,
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