Depression as WLS date nears?

Has anyone had the experience of getting more depressed as their surgery date neared? It seems like everyone else just gets more excited.

I think I'm actually getting afraid of having the surgery because it will just show me that my weight wasn't the thing holding me back, that it's just that there is something unlovable or flawed in me that is. What if I lose all the weight and I still can't get a date or more friends?

I think I may need to just call my psychiatrist but I just feel worse and worse as the date nears.
(I think I'm also under such a strain financially these days and because I absolutely hate the surgery scheduler at my surgeon's office because I can't get info on if it was even submitted to my insurance yet that is making me really tired too.)

Any ideas?

Thanks!

I think most everyone, if not everyone, has pre WLS anxiety.  And many have thought about backing out of the surgery because the liquid diet wasn't so bad after a while.  And why couldn't we just do that instead of the invasive surgery?

I you have been working with the psychiatrist, you should call.  Otherwise, I'm sure its the pre surgery jitters.

Good luck!

Who is your surgeon? There is no reason that the scheduler will not tell you when your information was submitted.   You can also call your insurance and find out if they have gotten your paperwork yet.

Pre-surgery jitters are there for all of us. I have Bi-Polar and it got really bad right before surgery. I was really afraid that we would not be able to keep the Bi-Polar in check. It got rough, but my psychiatrist worked with me until we got it all good.

Good luck,

Karen

I finally got a hold of the surgeon's scheduler. My surgeon is Dr. Leslie at U of MN. If i had it to do over again, I would never have gone there. Desi (the scheduler) has made this whole thing an absolute nightmare. She never returns phone calls so you have to call and call until she actually answers. She's even denied getting my phone messages and even the letter I mailed to her.

Turns out nothing has been submitted because she is still getting November surgeries submitted. I put this in another post.

I'm currently playing phone tag with my psychiatrist's nurse.

I think part of it is that this can be really hard to deal with yourself. I have some really good friends but I still need to handle all of this myself, getting everything ready and calling doctors and all, which of course would be the case.  I'm tired of having to deal with things myself all the time. Not that I'd still want to be married to my loser ex-husband. But I sure miss my mom. What I would do to have her back right now.  I'm just so tired.

Anna:

Most everyone has the pre-surgery jitters at some point.   God, I was pathetic (really!).  As far as your fears about potentially finding out down the road that your weight wan't the only thing holding you back......aside from complications, the worst possible thing is that you will feel better, have more energy and more confidence to deal with whatever is holding you back and you will suffer less from those who choose to discrminate against obese people.  WLS willnot fix everything in your life, but it can put you in a much more advantageous position to tackle barriers than you are in now.  One thing that has helped me is to see a bariatric psychologist one a month until I am at least a year out from surgery because of my fears of sinking back into my history with depression.  I am 4-1/2 months out right now and doing well (-142 overall, -82 since surgery).  The psychologist has helped me address issues along the way that weren't so big at the time they surfaced, but could have easily snowballed if I hadn't faced them (which I have had to do, since I can no longer seek mass quantities of food for emotional comfort).  Please feel free to PM me if you would like to discuss these matters further.

Take care,

RP

I would call your psychiatrist.  I bet some of this is the normal jitters and some of it is the realization/mourning of who you've known yourself to be.  Realizing that the "security" of being obese will be gone and thus making you vulnerable. 

Get to your psychiatrist and let him/her know the feelings you are have and work thru them!!  Hang in there!!!  The excitement will come!
HUGS

I am sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time with Desi, I also had Dr Leslie and absolutely loved him and the nurses. I did not even have any trouble with Desi but I only called her once.

About the pre op depression He** yes, I had the exact same thing happen to me. Right now afterward I am in a grieving cycle because I can't have the food I used to. I am only 3 weeks post op and still on pureed.