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Hey guys most of you know my situation and I went to Fargo thurs night and when I got to the hospital I sat on my dads bed and he opened his eyes and we talked for 30-45 min and you guys he RESPONDED to me. We both cried I cried the whole time and he cried off and on and when I seen his tears run down his cheek I cried so hard and I guess loud because I had His girlfriend and the nurses come running thinking he passed away...... It was so beautiful you guys. I told him the **** my brother was doing and saying I wasn't his daughter and blah blah blah and he frowned hard then cried. I told him he needed to give me sign to either keep fighting for him or to let him go and that I would always be his baby girl and I would be behind him 100% on what he wanted he scrunched his eyes and cried again. I am so blessed to have shared that with him. He didn't cry the whole time like I did but by golly when we started to talk about the GRANDKIDS he cried again...... I pooped himout I think and he was getting pissed like he wanted to kick some ass so they gave him some calming meds and he went to sleep. Through out the night they said he woke up and went crazy they gave him more calming meds and he slept. Laurie thought he was thinking of what I told him and it made him mad again but in a good way. I don't know if I can give up on him after that. What do you all think????/ do you think it sounds like he wants to fight this? I think he does....but I am so tired of getting my hopes up then they get shot down so I am waiting.......I called and checked on him today and his vitals and pressures are all stable and have been since yesterday. He slept most of the day friday and didn't get much of a response. The Dr. is even stunned he has never seen anything like this he is dumb founded so that also gives me hope again. Whay ya all think??????
Hi Marsha~
Such uncertainty must be so frustrating--but at least your dad is still with you! I have been in a situation similar to what you're going through, so I can really relate to what your're experiencing, but the only advice I offer--if you are even looking for advice--is just cherish the time you have with him. Forget your idiot brother--and concentrate on your dad. You will have no regrets this way.
You are an amazingly strong woman! And here's nothing like a crisis to bring out that strength we never knew existed!
Take care of yourself, Sweetie.
((HUGS)) and prayers
**SUE**
Such uncertainty must be so frustrating--but at least your dad is still with you! I have been in a situation similar to what you're going through, so I can really relate to what your're experiencing, but the only advice I offer--if you are even looking for advice--is just cherish the time you have with him. Forget your idiot brother--and concentrate on your dad. You will have no regrets this way.
You are an amazingly strong woman! And here's nothing like a crisis to bring out that strength we never knew existed!
Take care of yourself, Sweetie.
((HUGS)) and prayers
**SUE**
What a wonderful moment you were able to share with your dad!! I'm so happy for you that you got that time. Sounds to me like he is a fighter!! Its so hard to know what to do and what the future holds. I will continue to pray for you and your dad. I know that not knowing what to do it a tough things I say leave it in Gods hands. He knows!
Best wishes to you!!
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Marsha,
I am glad you keep us up dated on your dad. If it were me (and it isn't) I would let my dad have every moment he can muster as long as he was/is not suffering in pain. The pain is controlled to a point. He sounds like he still has fight in him even if he tires out. Let him be and let god take care of what needs to be. You will know as will your dad when the time has come. Count every moment of joy until then. Letting him leave this place with dignity.
Best wishes,
Kelly/tink
I am glad you keep us up dated on your dad. If it were me (and it isn't) I would let my dad have every moment he can muster as long as he was/is not suffering in pain. The pain is controlled to a point. He sounds like he still has fight in him even if he tires out. Let him be and let god take care of what needs to be. You will know as will your dad when the time has come. Count every moment of joy until then. Letting him leave this place with dignity.
Best wishes,
Kelly/tink
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on 11/23/08 10:35 am - MN
on 11/23/08 10:35 am - MN
I can't give you any advice Marsha, but what an amazing moment for you to have with your dad! No matter what happens now, you can at least be at peace knowing that you've had that time with him. Good luck with everything - I'll continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
Oh Marsha.....what a touching post. Bless your hearts!!
What a beautiful memory for the two of you. Savor those special times together. You are such a blessing in his life.
You are the only one that can decided what to do concerning him.....I know how hard it is to walk away. I support you in anything you do sweetheart.
I am here for you.......gentle hugs....connie d
What a beautiful memory for the two of you. Savor those special times together. You are such a blessing in his life.
You are the only one that can decided what to do concerning him.....I know how hard it is to walk away. I support you in anything you do sweetheart.
I am here for you.......gentle hugs....connie d
WOW! What an awesome moment!! Reading your post gave me goose bumps!! I pray that you get the wisedom and peace to know what to do!
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I'm so happy for you to have had the chance to talk with your dad, I know how precious that was.
I don't want to rain on your parade, but just to give you a possible reality check - often times, people who are near the end will have a brief respite from their mostly unconscious state. It gives everyone an opportunity for a last goodbye, but it can also give loved ones a potentially false sense of hope. That could be the case with your visit, certainly no one can tell you until hindsight kicks in. I'm just glad you could be there for him as much as you have been - I know you are too.
Lots of love to you, sweetie, I hope my message didn't bring you down. I've just seen it too many times and read about it in books dealing with end-stage health issues...
I don't want to rain on your parade, but just to give you a possible reality check - often times, people who are near the end will have a brief respite from their mostly unconscious state. It gives everyone an opportunity for a last goodbye, but it can also give loved ones a potentially false sense of hope. That could be the case with your visit, certainly no one can tell you until hindsight kicks in. I'm just glad you could be there for him as much as you have been - I know you are too.
Lots of love to you, sweetie, I hope my message didn't bring you down. I've just seen it too many times and read about it in books dealing with end-stage health issues...
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didn't bring me down one bit. I totally understand what your saying..... I still feel like kicking my dumb brothers butt oh wait we weren't talking about that....LOLOLO anyhways I want to see hwat the DR says this week and I just don't know at this point. I am so confused and frustrated with the whole works. I think I need to go into a nut hut for awhile.......Hugs to you sweets marsh
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